There is only one secret here that people need to know, and it certainly isn’t a secret. Male or Female, people are attracted to things they find stimulating in some way. So it’s important to cover a few areas of activity/interest in your profile, but not go into much depth. Let the reader imagine what the depth will be … if they are interested what they imagine is probably more than what is reality.

HOWEVER, some bad news. The reader will form an opinion/perception within 2 seconds of picture/headline. Whatever else is in your profile from there on will be interpreted in within that perception.

For instance, your profile could complain about women wanting looks/money/height or not returning emails or even lay your claim to being a womanizer or whatever. If the reader had a positive perception going in, after the picture, all that gets interpreted in a positive way, otherwise it is negative interpretation.

The safest tack is to keep your profile “text” neutral and let the reader make the decision.

The profile, is a good time to decide what your strengths are and focus on those. Don’t try to be funny, unless you really are funny. Be very careful NOT to speak/write as if you’re qualifying yourself, just stating what is letting the reader determine good/bad is better … but indicate that you think it’s good for you of course … showing modest pride/accomplishment.

The about me box only serves to get the people who are sitting on the fence after reading your stats/picture, to move in a direction. So you need to decide, whether your interested in the fence sitters. If not, then a quick 2-4 liner will suffice.

When you read thru women profiles you will notice their attention to detail and status and self pride. This is an attractant to women. If your profile doesn’t demonstrate those qualities sufficiently, you will have a tough time attracting interest, on POF, or anywhere else for that matter. Demonstrating “social proof”, other people like me or I have friends is important as well. Detail/status/self pride/social proof are things that does not mean as much to men as women hence a lot of guys omit these details even when they have them.

As well, your profile should read as “I don’t need a woman” but would like one to accompany me on my journey.

IF you pay attention to womens profiles you’ll see that are demonstrating the same things since it is clearly of importance to them. They are without a doubt shouting out what they want in almost every regard, AND they will make their decision based on those factors/qualities. It doesn’t matter it men don’t appreciate the same factors/qualities at the same level, but it is important to play along to gather the initial interest. It is really a case of, if all you have is a hammer everything you see will be a nail. People make decisions initially based on their own perceptions … that’s true for everything.

AND, you’ll notice most female profiles who are looking for dating with long term potential, tend to play the highlight reel of their life. Men, should do the same if looking for long term. Don’t worry, both you(male) and the female understand there’s a fair amount of BS there.

Lastly, when filling in your about me section, assuming you’re going to fill it in, think about when things were going well for you, in recent past, if not currently awesome, and describe that life. That’s important for the dopamine kick to shine thru so you’re profile is guaranteed to display happy, fun, content etc.