Are you a nice guy and still getting terrible Plenty of Fish dating results? If you said “yes” then you are probably making the classic mistake that most nice guys make. You are putting the women you are trying to date online up on a pedestal. You are seeing these beautiful women online and worshiping them without even knowing who they are. This behavior may seem counter intuitive but you need to start putting your own needs higher than the women you are pursuing.
Perhaps you’ve been taught to always treat women with respect and to be a gentleman. That’s good, you should always be gentleman when dating, but there is a difference between being a gentleman and being a supplicating push over. You can still respect women and place a high value on yourself at the same time.
It amazes me that when guys see a beautiful woman online, that they immediately put them up on a pedestal. Why? There’s no reason to start worshiping the ground a woman walks on or to fall in love with her without having gotten to know her in person. You also come across as a stalker, which is obviously not attractive. A girl can’t respect a guy who she can walk all over. It just doesn’t work that way.
Some good examples of this topic can be found in the following thread on the Plenty of Fish dating forums. The women basically explain how they have guys sending messages claiming that they will treat them like goddesses or princesses. If this isn’t your typical nice guy “putting the girl on pedestal” behavior, I don’t know what is.
When you place more value on a woman by sending her these types of messages, you are stating right away that she is too good for you. So, if you’re telling a woman that she is too good for you, what are the chances she is going to want a date with you? If we think about this logically, we realize that putting the woman up on a pedestal actually does far more damage then if you think about yourself and show these women that you are a high value man.
So, if your a nice guy and are involved with Plenty of Fish dating, please do these women a favor and stop being a push over.
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That was bad advice. I gahter you know little about women. Nice guys are a penney a dozen, one can find them anywhere. Most are not relationship material.
I did my own experiment on POF and created a fake profile. What I found out was that it didn’t matter what I said in the subject line or even in the general email when I contacted ladies. What mattered overwhelmingly was the way I looked. I contacted the same ladies I had contacted with my regular profile. Both had pictures, one of me, one of some douche I found on the net. I would get 20-30 emails a day and 95% of them gave me their numbers. The fun part is that I said exactly the same things in both. I was a “nice guy”. Women don’t want a nice guy, or even a considerate guy. They want a hottie. Done. It’s science.