Comments on: How To Increase Your Plenty of Fish Dating Success http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html If there are plenty of fish in the sea, why isn't anyone biting? Sat, 21 Aug 2010 15:44:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-216 Anonymous Wed, 29 Jul 2009 08:57:25 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-216 "Think I will just take a course from Mystery on the Mystery Method and pick up women the old fashion way."<br /><br />haha<br /><br />The entire world is getting old if The MysteryMethod is 'the old fashioned' way!<br /><br />Big Daddy<br />POF Superstar "Think I will just take a course from Mystery on the Mystery Method and pick up women the old fashion way."

haha

The entire world is getting old if The MysteryMethod is 'the old fashioned' way!

Big Daddy
POF Superstar

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-194 Anonymous Sat, 28 Mar 2009 23:18:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-194 What a crock, been on POF and I must have a hunch on my back cuz I do not have any fans or favorites. Most women refuse to email back and other just give me excuses like I live to far or that I am asking too many questions. So what the heck are you to do when you email someone? Stand around with your hands in your pants? Gees. Think I will just take a course from Mystery on the Mystery Method and pick up women the old fashion way. What a crock, been on POF and I must have a hunch on my back cuz I do not have any fans or favorites. Most women refuse to email back and other just give me excuses like I live to far or that I am asking too many questions. So what the heck are you to do when you email someone? Stand around with your hands in your pants? Gees. Think I will just take a course from Mystery on the Mystery Method and pick up women the old fashion way.

]]> By: Matt Savage http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-141 Matt Savage Fri, 24 Oct 2008 05:43:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-141 <blockquote>I'm just saying you don't know what the interest is. Chasing it is just a decision.</blockquote> <br/><br/>Well, considering that it is a dating site, the interest is likely to be some sort of attraction, right? I understand what you are saying, it certainly isn't going to be a sure thing, but what I was trying to get at in the post, was that because a 'favorite' is likely to be an indicator of interest, your odds are better at contacting that person than a random stranger. I'm just using simple logic here and I think it makes sense.

I’m just saying you don’t know what the interest is. Chasing it is just a decision.

Well, considering that it is a dating site, the interest is likely to be some sort of attraction, right? I understand what you are saying, it certainly isn’t going to be a sure thing, but what I was trying to get at in the post, was that because a ‘favorite’ is likely to be an indicator of interest, your odds are better at contacting that person than a random stranger. I’m just using simple logic here and I think it makes sense.

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-136 Anonymous Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:29:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-136 "Think about it. We bookmark things on the web because we find them interesting. So when a person is "bookmarked" is it not safe to say that they are interested in that person?"<br/><br/>I'm just saying you don't know what the interest is. Chasing it is just a decision.<br/><br/>In a lot of cases even when women email, the whole thing falls apart in 1-2 emails. There is a lot of nonsense on POF. AND there is a lot of wasted time and effort. Even women on POF very rarely look a their favourite lists other than to clear it. It's is ambiguous communication. <br/><br/>I'm vary of the favourites thing from women because they are generally just looking to date a lot of different men ... innocently ... like a sample pack sort of thing. Email is a much better, clearer indication of interest. <br/><br/>Finding a date, isn't that hard on POF. Wasting your time dating people that lead nowhere however is very common. <br/><br/>To use your analogy. If I'm searching for a topic on the web I may bookmark several pages until I find the best one. At that point, I have no interest in the others.<br/><br/>Of course, just saying hello to someone off the favourites list won't kill you but the response rate for a lot of guys is as the first posted said ... mostly ignored.<br/><br/>It's sorta like a kid with $20 buck in his pocket ... first he looks at all the things he can buy before finally making a selection. Sometimes he's just keeps the $20 because a better deal may come along. <br/><br/>Your best option for dating success on POF, is if you see a profile that's at least 50% of what you want say hello. See what happens. It's pretty random. If you get interest back, close quickly, to meet in real life ... other wise move onto the next. This is because of the hugh ratio difference. What you say in the email makes little difference, just keep it light conversation starter stuff. “Think about it. We bookmark things on the web because we find them interesting. So when a person is “bookmarked” is it not safe to say that they are interested in that person?”

I’m just saying you don’t know what the interest is. Chasing it is just a decision.

In a lot of cases even when women email, the whole thing falls apart in 1-2 emails. There is a lot of nonsense on POF. AND there is a lot of wasted time and effort. Even women on POF very rarely look a their favourite lists other than to clear it. It’s is ambiguous communication.

I’m vary of the favourites thing from women because they are generally just looking to date a lot of different men … innocently … like a sample pack sort of thing. Email is a much better, clearer indication of interest.

Finding a date, isn’t that hard on POF. Wasting your time dating people that lead nowhere however is very common.

To use your analogy. If I’m searching for a topic on the web I may bookmark several pages until I find the best one. At that point, I have no interest in the others.

Of course, just saying hello to someone off the favourites list won’t kill you but the response rate for a lot of guys is as the first posted said … mostly ignored.

It’s sorta like a kid with $20 buck in his pocket … first he looks at all the things he can buy before finally making a selection. Sometimes he’s just keeps the $20 because a better deal may come along.

Your best option for dating success on POF, is if you see a profile that’s at least 50% of what you want say hello. See what happens. It’s pretty random. If you get interest back, close quickly, to meet in real life … other wise move onto the next. This is because of the hugh ratio difference. What you say in the email makes little difference, just keep it light conversation starter stuff.

]]> By: Matt Savage http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-135 Matt Savage Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:58:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-135 I still thing favorites or bookmarking as you say, is still useful as a signal of interest from another person.<br/><br/>Think about it. We bookmark things on the web because we find them interesting. So when a person is "bookmarked" is it not safe to say that they are interested in that person? I still thing favorites or bookmarking as you say, is still useful as a signal of interest from another person.

Think about it. We bookmark things on the web because we find them interesting. So when a person is “bookmarked” is it not safe to say that they are interested in that person?

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-133 Anonymous Sat, 11 Oct 2008 18:53:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-133 The favourites list is misused by most. A lot of people just consider it a bookmark. <br/><br/>Sure, it's a nudge in the right direction, maybe. More often it's just a bookmark, they may be interested, they may just be testing if you would be interested, they may have just thought your profile was funny/interesting ... nothing more.<br/><br/>My experience has been, very few women actually use bookmarks/favourites ... they just email. <br/><br/>It's a good way for woman to indicate they would consider READING an email from you, but those who do that generally do that to a number of profiles. <br/><br/>I suggest men, in their profiles, encourage women to NOT use favourites, but just send an email. <br/><br/>As in: " I prefer email, to being added as a favourite, so I know I have your attention. Just saying HI is fine " The favourites list is misused by most. A lot of people just consider it a bookmark.

Sure, it’s a nudge in the right direction, maybe. More often it’s just a bookmark, they may be interested, they may just be testing if you would be interested, they may have just thought your profile was funny/interesting … nothing more.

My experience has been, very few women actually use bookmarks/favourites … they just email.

It’s a good way for woman to indicate they would consider READING an email from you, but those who do that generally do that to a number of profiles.

I suggest men, in their profiles, encourage women to NOT use favourites, but just send an email.

As in: ” I prefer email, to being added as a favourite, so I know I have your attention. Just saying HI is fine “

]]> By: Matt Savage http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-131 Matt Savage Sun, 10 Aug 2008 22:04:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-131 Hmmm, that's kind of bizarre behavior. I have contacted people that who added me as favorites and so far it's been about 50/50 for me. Some reply back and some don't, not sure why yet. But still, the ones that do respond, I almost always get dates with them...so, despite the non responders I still think it's a good little technique. In fact, I have a date this weekend from a cute girl who had favorited me but admitted was too shy to message me first:) Hmmm, that’s kind of bizarre behavior. I have contacted people that who added me as favorites and so far it’s been about 50/50 for me. Some reply back and some don’t, not sure why yet. But still, the ones that do respond, I almost always get dates with them…so, despite the non responders I still think it’s a good little technique. In fact, I have a date this weekend from a cute girl who had favorited me but admitted was too shy to message me first:)

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-130 Anonymous Sun, 10 Aug 2008 16:47:00 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2008/07/how-to-increase-your-plenty-of-fish-dating-success.html#comment-130 From my POF experience, the majority of people that have added you as a favorite seldom respond back when contacted. Rather strange because they're the one's that added you, but true nonetheless... maybe it's just my experience. From my POF experience, the majority of people that have added you as a favorite seldom respond back when contacted. Rather strange because they’re the one’s that added you, but true nonetheless… maybe it’s just my experience.

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