Alright, being on the site since it began, I will let you in on a few things.

-Yes, there ARE fake profiles, not just the men posing as women either. A lot are actually women pimping their Facebook, or even “free webcam” links. Alot are also generated from data scraps from other sites.

-The women there ARE shallow. Speaking of experiments, I’ve known guys on there to “whack up” an experimental profile. Find some model guy, or some amateur bodybuilder. Use that as your photo, but for your profile description, just write “blah blah, Im bored” or something of equal nonsense. You will get a LOT of messages from women…saying…wait fir it “Hi, wanna chat” “hi how r u” – the very SAME messages the women complain about!

People complain the members lie about their age or looks (mostly the women say this about guys)…Ok, one woman I encountered was using her daughter’s photos on the site as her own!!!! Two girls were using it to try and hook their OTHER friend up…so photos should have been of the FRIEND. Most the photos are all angle shots or have half their bodies covered.

I have encountered SEVERAL single moms with 6 kids or more ( form different fathers) looking on the site for a “billpayer” or “kidfeeder”. Not just one….BUT SEVERAL

It does not really matter what you write in your message – you will get ignored if your photo is not some ridculous model badboy. As I mentioned earlier…if you are a hot male, and your profile says “blah blah blah” YOU WILL STILL GET REPLIES. If you are an average male, you WONT get interest REGARDLESS of what you write in message.

“No PIC NO REPLY” – having a pic does not guarantee a reply
“I want to know who Im talking to” How do you know me from a PHOTO…unless..you are SHALLOW?

Stay ouyt of the forum…..there is a group of men hating women in their 50s who sit on it all day abusing guys-they are actually there FOR THAT, but if you say anythign to them, your account will be deleted!

This is just a 20th of the BS on there…

I replied to every email I received until I got an abusive message back saying that i was the bottom of the barrel anyway.

I don’t reply negatively anymore. Just delete if I’m not interested. It’s a shame but I don’t fancy getting rebuked for trying to ‘do unto others’.

I understand that you men believe we women just sit back waiting for the emails to pour in so we can get our jollies from all that attention that we then ignore. That’s not always (and very rarely) true. So a couple of you made up women’s profiles, but I noticed you didn’t share what you actually said in them statistically (income, age, height, weight etc. – most importantly a decent photograph!) If I can’t at least see your face, I’m thinking there might be an incredible hulk waiting on the other side!

I think POF should post the EXIF data from photos that get uploaded here so we can see when they were ACTUALLY taken. Of course, that won’t stop some people (scammers and those with little or no self-esteem) from posting photos that are scanned from a high school photo or where the face is not who is behind the profile. I know there are many women who do the same things as men do, write crappy profiles that say nothing interesting, or even give you a peek at the character and personality of the (wo)man behind them.

I figure, I’ve made some friends here over the years, one of them lives with me now. The Good Lord gave you a lot of opportunities to experience different people, and if you took advantage of them, then you’ve widened your perceptions of the world. Unfortunately, too many people just skim the surface of others and never look beyond the flesh to the ‘heart’ of the matter.

Emails are a means to communicate, and I must say, when I get an email that says “Hi. I think we are compatible. I want to talk to you.” I read it, check out the profile and decide if what was written would make a decent conversation and give me clues what to say in response. If there’s nothing there but “Looking for a good hearted woman”, without at least an idea of what the guy thinks that embodies, I’m left with only two options: Ask what a ‘good-hearted’ woman is, or respond that I don’t see why he thinks that from the information he’s given to me!

I suppose I could ‘guess’ that he must’ve seen something in what I wrote that made him think we are compatible, or maybe he just liked my looks, or enjoys one or two things that I also like. How would you men respond to that? I gotta tell you, 8 out of ten times that I respond to these messages I eventually find that they’ve been without sex for a few weeks and they’re looking for a hook-up. I’m not, never have been, and never will be a “hook-up”. I have some self-respect and I didn’t live this long being stupid.

I also have to say, the last time I saw or read this much kevetching, it was at a Jewish Women’s round table. Online dating is difficult, and if you’re in a big hurry, forget finding what you’re looking for, it isn’t here. Once you’ve done it for a while you learn (some do) that if you catch the attention of a potential partner, you did it by showing her you’re worthy of her time by writing her a conversational letter. Yes, conversational, not just canned words (spelled correctly gives points!) that say nothing she can respond to!

If you genuinely want to meet someone you see here, follow a few easy rules:
1. Clean up your spelling or write your message in a word program (make sure you re-read it for grammatical errors) check your spelling then copy+paste it into this message box!
2. While writing your message, think about what she might want to know about you, other than what you wrote (or didn’t write) in your profile.
3. Try to show your humor, make her laugh – not at you, but at life.
4. Don’t begin by telling her all your problems – she’ll run faster than that buck you were aiming at last weekend.
5. Be interested in what she has to offer too! I can’t tell you how often a man will email me and when I reply they are at a loss for words to reply. (Could that be because I’m Not…all those nasty things you all said above?).
6. Don’t tell her everything about your life immediately, and definitely stay away from divorce stories – believe it or not she may have one to match yours or worse. (Not all of us take it all, some of us loose it all too!)
7. Be REAL… Pretending to be who and what you are Not is the best way to loose her interest – and that of the other women she knows, and those they know…. get it? When you get a bad reputation on a dating site, it carries its message a lot farther than you think!

So there are your “Lucky Seven” hints when it comes to contacting women on a dating site. Always remember – if it seems too good to be true – it most likely IS. But, don’t forget – there are Exceptions to everything!

I refuse to take offense to your nasty remarks about women, because I just don’t fit into that mold. I’m sorry you guys get abused in this way, but try to believe that we women get abused the same way too. I’ve written to men who ignored me, and I just figure maybe there’s something I missed in their profile that was going to be a ‘deal-breaker’ for them. So-be-it! When it’s the right one, we’ll know. In the meantime, I’ve met some pretty awesome people and made some friends.

Would any of you like some cheese with your whine?

Mike

I am curious as to how they can claim such an outrageous statistic on POF. I normally receive 1 reply for every 30+ messages that I send. (note: I very carefully write and spell check each email. I never use hi, hello, ur hot, … etc for the subject line. I try to be creative with the subject lines but I’ll admit sometimes its hard to come up with a good one.)