Comments on: 7 Bad Examples of Dating Email Messages

By: justin

justin — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 03:04:02 +0000

I agree with this post for the most part. Ladies, if the guy can’t bother to put enough time into the message, than he is obviously not genuinely interested. I double and sometimes triple check my messages, after all thats the beauty of online dating isn’t it? I usually get replies from girls that read the messages, the others just never sign on and it’s unread, and i only had a few deleted. Another problem when i talk to a girl for about a week the conversation gets stale until one of us doesn’t reply.For example, I usually suggest email instead, after about a week on the site. She ask’s for my email but i never get that email… Must be doing something wrong…..

By: The Unsatisfied Women of Plenty of Fish

The Unsatisfied Women of Plenty of Fish — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:14:45 +0000

[...] the same thing I had when I set up the fake online profile and received tons and tons of bad dating emails messages with ridiculous short sited subject lines like; hi, hey, hello, [...]

By: Plenty of Fish Subject Lines that really SUCK!

Plenty of Fish Subject Lines that really SUCK! — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:14:12 +0000

[...] this in mind, as the next post about POF email messages, will examine the body of the messages that were sent to the experimental account and trust me, [...]

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:20:23 +0000

Guys pretending you are interesed with a woman after many e-mails & ask or their # and after you get it you stop e-mailing? Are you collecting tel. #'s only? Another guy did nothing but write in riddles & vagueness. Never answered if married or anything else asked about him? Do any of you men really read the profiles..I mean really!!You men who want sex talk should go to adult friend finder. You say you're serious about finding someone, somehow I don't think so!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Players

By: Matt Savage

Matt Savage — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 22:36:00 +0000

Laura,
Thanks for bringing up that point. You’re right, it’s not enough just to make contact. Guys need to demonstrate that they are worthy of dating. In the seduction community this is called demonstrating higher value (or DHV for those of you who watch VH1′s The Pickup Artist:) Though, it’s also important to note that you can’t brag about it either, such as the Doctor guy above.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 04:12:00 +0000

What I notice in all of those is that only one of those guys says anything about himself, who he is. Are they all that boring or are they all just walking penis’s after all? None of those guys has an email that would be interesting to reply to. I did go out with three guys from PoF when I was active there. They each had something to say about themself. It gives you the feeling there is a person on the other end of the email, someone you could get to know. All the others you gave as examples seem to be looking for something very casual. Too casual. You can buy those kind of casual in an adult novelty store.

By: Matt Savage

Matt Savage — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 21:20:00 +0000

HumorSmith,
Haha, I had feeling someone would post a comment like this. Yes, my command of the English language is certainly not perfect, nor is most peoples'.

In online dating, I think you can forgive people for simple grammatical/spelling mistakes, but there's a difference between that and some of the messages from above.

From what I see, there are no glaring mistakes in the above article, however, if you are willing to point them out, I'll certainly fix them.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 16:18:00 +0000

I'm a fake funny "hot guy".
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Seriously, email from women (initiated or otherwise) can be pretty bad at time. However, I would certainly expect the clever/educated guys on the site are a lower percentage in respect to woman. That's just volume really. People should recognize women are generally better in language skills, so it can be a easy turn off for them.

However, if you go to myspace or any other "free" service where "dating" is a possibility you will notice some pretty crappy stuff.

People need to let up on expecting wordsmiths in emails and just push it thru to get to the met stage.

Still, the emails you cited, which I suspect represents a significant percentage, won't get guys anywhere.

The biggest issue, is that free dating sites and maybe dating sites in general are NOT comprised of people who are all that gifted in meeting/conversation anyway. Putting email in between as well, ain't gonna help much.

Guys should stick to very light/fun conversation starter. It is really a "I like you/ you like me/ let's meet and see scenario". Don't make it anymore complicated than that. On line dating is simply nothing more than "high resolution" blind dating.

Your profile and approach should clearly state, without stating it, let's meet, share a few laughs, some fun stuff(not sex), and see what happens, but hopefully it's going to be great.

More simply put, the worse case scenario has to be acceptable to which ever woman you're speaking with ... otherwise it won't happen. Everyone thinks that way, it's not just woman.

By: HumorSmith

HumorSmith — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 02:37:00 +0000

If you are going to judge someone on grammar, spelling, and syntax, then may I suggest you carefully check your own writing first? Other than that, very funny post.

By: Matt Savage

Matt Savage — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 19:35:00 +0000

Anonymous,
I didn't think to try this with a fake "hot guy" profile. I suppose my thinking was that guys in general receive far less emails than women and wouldn't get a good enough sampling to see similar bad emails from women. Although, now that you bring it up, I may have to experiment and with that concept and see what happens.

Just out of curiosity, are there any of you guys out there who get crappy email messages from women? If anyone's willing to share, take a screen shot and email it to me: themodernsavage at gmail.com.