Like most online dating sites, plentyoffish.com, offers an option for what’s referred to as “Intimate Encounters.” This particular option, as with most free dating sites (CraigsList for example), is basically a booty call for a one night stand. Not that I’m particularly into this type of thing, but I have noticed that there are a number of discussions regarding the intimate encounters aspect of Plenty of Fish lately. Also, I want to make it clear before I go any further that this site isn’t about getting one night stands from online dating sites, however, it’s still an interesting topic in my opinion, so lets talk about it.
The first big thing that caught my eye was this article in the News of the World. The article describes a woman who is really into online dating, but not just any regular old dating. She has gone out and slept with over 200 of her online dates! Here are a few choice quotes from the article:
“On average, she beds a different man every FIVE DAYS. She’s even had sex with THREE of them in ONE DAY…
…She admits: “I can’t explain the buzz I get from meeting someone for the first time and knowing that in a couple of hours we’ll be ripping each other’s clothes off. It’s addictive.”
Now here’s the thing, she uses two sites for bedding men, benaughty.com and plentyoffish. Yes, there are actually women on Plenty of Fish who are simply out for a one night hook-up. This may seem unfathomable to most men who have used PlentyofFish, as most of them can barely get a response to their email messages let alone a one night stand with an attractive woman, but there is at least one woman on the site who is ready and willing.
Of course this is just one woman. She must be an outlier, correct? Well, I’m not so sure. I’m reminded of a post I wrote a few months ago about the promiscuity of women online. It talks about a recent trend of Intimate Encounters which the founder of Plenty of Fish, Markus Frind, noticed. The trend basically showed that since 2004, the number of women on the site who selected the “intimate encounter” option went from 9% of women up to 18%. Now 18% is nothing to sneeze at. To put it into perspective, at this moment there are 112,382 online, which means approximately 20 thousand of those are looking for an intimate encounter. Just a simple search within ten miles of my zip code shows 74 women online who have chose the intimate encounter option.
Now, I know what you are thinking. All the women looking for intimate encounters are likely to be ugly or have some other abnormality. The argument being that why would an attractive girl need to use an online dating site if she is just looking to “hook-up” for the night. She could simply go out to the nearest bar and wait for the men to flock to her. Again, I don’t think that is the case. A quick glance at my IE search results shows a number of attractive women in the pictures.
Also, there was an excellent post by one woman on the message boards, which gave a good reason as to why women would use plentyoffish for finding intimate encounters:
“Okay first of all you don’t have to be ugly to want to have to have an intimate encounter -
- Maybe getting thrown up on or possibly killed by some random dude at the bar isn’t appealing.
- Maybe you are too busy to date but have a kicking sex drive
- Maybe you are a person who owns their sexuality and doesn’t let anyone else define what is right for you- you decide for yourself and you take it!
- Maybe looking online gives you a chance to take as much time as you want to to get to know that person.
- Maybe you are looking for a regular, a boy toy, a maintenance man.
- Maybe if you have these close minded ideas about the modern women, you are too ugly for them to sleep with you!
So guess what – I’ve done at least one of these things and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have needs, wants and desires and I don’t care if someone else doesn’t agree. I am not saying its a permanent solution, I am just saying its time to cut the crap and stop making women out to be these holy beings that can’t get their swerve on like guys do. You guys can’t have it both ways and women need to stop bowing to such pretentious ideas, its much more liberating when you take your sexuality into your own hands and that doesn’t make you a slut. Don’t knock it until you try it, I embrace my sexuality as long as I do it responsibly and I highly recommend opening that “Pandora’s box” to any women who hasn’t.”
This is just one example, but if you search through the forums even more, you will find other women who freely admit that they are just out for a hook-up.
Looking at all the evidence shown above, it does appear that the “intimate encounter” market on Plenty of Fish is active and could possibly provide results for those that are inclined to this type of online dating. Actually getting the date or rather, the encounter, is a whole other subject on it’s own.
Has anyone out there ever gotten good results from the casual encounters option? Let me know in the comments.