Intimate Encounters on Plenty of Fish

Like most online dating sites,, offers an option for what’s referred to as “Intimate Encounters.” This particular option, as with most free dating sites (CraigsList for example), is basically a booty call for a one night stand. Not that I’m particularly into this type of thing, but I have noticed that there are a number of discussions regarding the intimate encounters aspect of Plenty of Fish lately. Also, I want to make it clear before I go any further that this site isn’t about getting one night stands from online dating sites, however, it’s still an interesting topic in my opinion, so lets talk about it.

The first big thing that caught my eye was this article in the News of the World. The article describes a woman who is really into online dating, but not just any regular old dating. She has gone out and slept with over 200 of her online dates! Here are a few choice quotes from the article:

“On average, she beds a different man every FIVE DAYS. She’s even had sex with THREE of them in ONE DAY…

…She admits: “I can’t explain the buzz I get from meeting someone for the first time and knowing that in a couple of hours we’ll be ripping each other’s clothes off. It’s addictive.”

and here’s her picture:

Now here’s the thing, she uses two sites for bedding men, and plentyoffish. Yes, there are actually women on Plenty of Fish who are simply out for a one night hook-up. This may seem unfathomable to most men who have used PlentyofFish, as most of them can barely get a response to their email messages let alone a one night stand with an attractive woman, but there is at least one woman on the site who is ready and willing.

Of course this is just one woman. She must be an outlier, correct? Well, I’m not so sure. I’m reminded of a post I wrote a few months ago about the promiscuity of women online. It talks about a recent trend of Intimate Encounters which the founder of Plenty of Fish, Markus Frind, noticed. The trend basically showed that since 2004, the number of women on the site who selected the “intimate encounter” option went from 9% of women up to 18%. Now 18% is nothing to sneeze at. To put it into perspective, at this moment there are 112,382 online, which means approximately 20 thousand of those are looking for an intimate encounter. Just a simple search within ten miles of my zip code shows 74 women online who have chose the intimate encounter option.

Now, I know what you are thinking. All the women looking for intimate encounters are likely to be ugly or have some other abnormality. The argument being that why would an attractive girl need to use an online dating site if she is just looking to “hook-up” for the night. She could simply go out to the nearest bar and wait for the men to flock to her. Again, I don’t think that is the case. A quick glance at my IE search results shows a number of attractive women in the pictures.

Also, there was an excellent post by one woman on the message boards, which gave a good reason as to why women would use plentyoffish for finding intimate encounters:

“Okay first of all you don’t have to be ugly to want to have to have an intimate encounter –

  1. Maybe getting thrown up on or possibly killed by some random dude at the bar isn’t appealing.
  2. Maybe you are too busy to date but have a kicking sex drive
  3. Maybe you are a person who owns their sexuality and doesn’t let anyone else define what is right for you- you decide for yourself and you take it!
  4. Maybe looking online gives you a chance to take as much time as you want to to get to know that person.
  5. Maybe you are looking for a regular, a boy toy, a maintenance man.
  6. Maybe if you have these close minded ideas about the modern women, you are too ugly for them to sleep with you!

So guess what – I’ve done at least one of these things and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have needs, wants and desires and I don’t care if someone else doesn’t agree. I am not saying its a permanent solution, I am just saying its time to cut the crap and stop making women out to be these holy beings that can’t get their swerve on like guys do. You guys can’t have it both ways and women need to stop bowing to such pretentious ideas, its much more liberating when you take your sexuality into your own hands and that doesn’t make you a slut. Don’t knock it until you try it, I embrace my sexuality as long as I do it responsibly and I highly recommend opening that “Pandora’s box” to any women who hasn’t.”

This is just one example, but if you search through the forums even more, you will find other women who freely admit that they are just out for a hook-up.

Looking at all the evidence shown above, it does appear that the “intimate encounter” market on Plenty of Fish is active and could possibly provide results for those that are inclined to this type of online dating. Actually getting the date or rather, the encounter, is a whole other subject on it’s own.

Has anyone out there ever gotten good results from the casual encounters option? Let me know in the comments.

19 thoughts on “Intimate Encounters on Plenty of Fish

  1. I won’t judge. I think it is great. To be honest, I am a little intimidated by a woman that is not constrained by so-called societies rules.

    As much as I have always wanted to try online dating; I have never been single long enough. Call me strange, but I don’t like cheating on my women.

  2. @Chris
    Well, it seems that if you are good at finding relationships outside of the Interwebs then you are probably way better off than most men, and you’d likely be wasting your time with online dating.

  3. this pof is interesting never dull when you se there pictures the look good until you meet them some look like boat anchors and are beached whales that have ran ashore i have met some real nice people on this pof i talk to them aanything i cant lift i throw it back to the sea from leroy

  4. @Anon,
    I imagine you are cleaning up on POF, given your rebellious nature of refusing to use punctuation.

  5. I have been with a lot of women from pof, about 30+ at the last count.

    And i have fucked 24 of those – 16 on the first night, ok, so about 9 of those i fucked were gut buckets, but when a guys sack is full he has to empty it right?

    I have no morals when fucking, so i'm in favour of sites like pof – a one nite stand is superb if all you want to do is empty your nut sack.

    And lets face it weve all fucked a few skanks in our time. Hehe :)

  6. Circa 2000, i put profiles in all 3 categories on a site that i think is now lavalife. (?)
    As with most sites, it was a waste of time. but i had best % of “return” from lavalife’s “knotty” category. two went along for a while. never progressed to meetups. the older one seemed paranoid that i was interested. the younger one seemed a bit messed mentally. (plus, the usual interwebz caveat: they may not have been who they claimed.)

    Also, 1nite was the least type of “date” i was interested in…

    “if you are good at finding relationships outside of the Interwebs then you are probably way better off than most men, and you’d likely be wasting your time with online dating.”
    IME, you’ve got it backwards. (in the context of hetero “dating”, and likely homo or bi dating:) If you “score” offline, you’ll score online. If you’re invisible offline, you won’t exist online.
    This is apparent for guys. I don’t know how offline jibes with online for women. Society is much more all-or-nothing for guys than for gals.

  7. The reason that women are under Intimate in POF is simply that in the other categories they don’t get many replies.
    It’s similar in Lavalife.
    On the other hand there are definitely women under “dating” or “friends” who really are looking for something intimate – most normal women are not totally celibate!

  8. We are a couple and we love AdultFriendFinder and meetlocals. Won’t say how many we have fucked in all but 12 so far this year! We LOVE to fuck and life is good with all of these online hooks ups.

  9. Ok maybe people don’t know too much about the internet but it has it’s certain protocal when actually getting from the screen to the scene. All you really need is a webcam and if anyone has a issue with that then don’t trust them. Pics are way too sketchy coz it can be anyone hiding behind those pics…old pics…fake pics….pics floating all over the net. POF isn’t called plenty of fakes for nothing. Now the fuck me category as I call it is either hookers..yes I know coz they proposition me when messaging. Most of them rarely even reply…inboxing or live chat. The real and serious ones im sure are the fugly ones..especially when you can tell they are using their real pics….lol. Really like I said b4 it really comes down to the webcam coz if ur willing to pay 1000’s for a computer but wont dish out a mere 50 bux for a webcam if your gonna make a profile then you don’t deserve to be trusted. I laugh at them trying to justify or make excuses why they don’t or won get in front of a webcam………….guilty guilty guilty….lol

  10. I believe women on pof in the intimate encounters is crap I am a member for about a month now looking to meet I think I’m pretty attractive Guy got good qualities sent tons of emails and good emails no so called 1 liners and guess what not 1 reply so a few days ago I created a fake profile with a male models pic similar stats as mine but real good job and my email and my viewed me had alot of responses and some were from the same people I contacted through my real profile I asked for pic from my fake got them I asked from my real never heard from so the other day pof was down 1 female texted me talked for a minute haven’t heard from again that goes to prove women on there are lyers and golddiggers

  11. Look, I know it’s commonplace to upload your pictures on websites these days, but you’re just asking for trouble.

    Anyone who has a respectable career is not going to be posting their inner most desires on a free-for-all website, complete with a handful of photos. Whatever you post cannot be taken back and your pictures become the sole property of the website, whether you’re aware of this or not.

    I’m amazed at how ignorant or accepting people are with posting revealing pictures online, whether it’s facebook (who’s security has been breached on more than one occasion) or dating sites.

    Having said that, I have used it in the past (for adult encounters), but would never post a picture on those sites, nor consider dating any of these women. The women I met had so much baggage or unresolved issues that you’d need a forklift just to carry it. I’ve also noticed the quality (attractiveness) decrease, or perhaps the unattractive are now vastly outnumbering the physically desirable.

    It can be, or once was for me, a fun adult outlet, but is no longer worth it. The ratio of men:women has become considerably worse and consequently your effort required is much greater. Many people also just like to ‘chat’ online forever and a day, with little intention of meeting anyone, so be weary of wasting your efforts on those ladies.

    If you’re seeking date-worthy quality, you’re better off looking elsewhere. Remember, it’s not the only dating outlet available.

  12. You guys are disgusting…I am on pof , but not looking for sex only, I’m looking for a long term relationship, possibly marriage. Now you make me wonder if I’m looking in the wrong place. I just had a discussion with another fellow pof member (he is male, I’m female) and I guess most women aren’t looking for one night stands (sex) and men are? Am I the only honest one on there, by posting recent photos and not lying about age?

  13. I think that what you published was very reasonable. But, what about this?
    what if you added a little information? I am not suggesting your information isn’t good., but what if you added a title that makes people desire more? I mean Intimate Encounters on Plenty of Fish is a little plain. You might glance at Yahoo’s front page and see how they write news
    headlines to grab viewers to click. You might try adding a video or a related pic or two to get readers interested about what you’ve got to say. In my opinion, it might bring your posts a little livelier.

  14. So call me naive but Im confused about this site. Obviously people have different agendas when they subscribe to online dating sites. I see most of these comments are very bias and based on your own wants and needs. I’ve been on POF on and off. Unlike most guys I’ve met from online dating sites, my profile pics are current, my intentions are clear, so it’s a big disappointment when I meet you in person to realize you are not who you say you are. It should be quite simple. Keep it real. Most guys lie to have sex. Then they complain that females have baggage and unresolved issues. Just say what you want. Let the other person make the decision if they want to be a part of that or not. Simple.

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