I’ve been searching around various different blogs lately trying to find different people’s experiences in using PlentyofFish. Lately, I’ve been stumbling across some blog posts by some women who are out in the dating scene looking for potential male suitors. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of disappointment in the men on the site. And for the most part, these men are making a lot of the common mistakes that I’ve mentioned repeatedly on this very blog. Lets take a further look at two of these examples, shall we?
Saving Diva setup a Plenty of Fish profile and has commented that she receives many short lame messages containing such subject lines as Hi, cute pic, etc. as I’ve discussed in my post about sucky subject lines.
“One guy actually referred to me as “sweetpea.” I haven’t been responding to the majority of the messages, and I haven’t received a decent message yet. Is this how all online dating sites are? If so, count me out! I need a little effort put into a message.”
So far though, she has actually gone out on a number of dates with some guys she met on Plenty of Fish. However, it was apparent that not all went well; below are a few of the men’s dating faux pas:
- A couple of guys ended up lying about their height and were shorter than described in their profiles
- One of these had questionable manners
- One guy lied about his age
- Another didn’t look like his pictures
- and a couple of them were quite boring
So, as we can see, the selection of decent guys on the site are few and far between, though her POF date#3 seemed to be a winner despite owning a Porshe Boxster S (apparently that’s a turn-off?)
Romi from The Year of the Chick
Romi had an excursion on Plenty of Fish back in October which resulted in some humorous blog posts, but she basically concluded at the end that all she found were duds. Along with Dating Diva, she also received a lot of crappy email messages:
“I find that every time I enter the site and cruise around, there are five emails waiting after only a couple of minutes. What this means of course is sifting through a lot of crap, such as: ”Hey baby”—crap, “Can I see more pictures?”—crap, “I want to make you my everything”—crap, etc, etc, etc.”
I don’t think she ever went on a date with anyone, but it’s clear in her making fun of the ridiculous messages she got why she wouldn’t or couldn’t find a decent date on the site.
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So, it seems that these two women, who seem like great catches, just aren’t getting the kind of quality game fish that you’d find on paid dating sites or in real life for that matter. This just goes to prove my theory that the competition between men on PlentyofFish.com is quite weak despite the incredible large quantity.
This is both good for those of us able to display interesting attractive personalities through the site but also bad because it makes it more difficult to stick out amongst the rest of the mackerels.
Also, it appears that both Saving Diva and Romi experienced the same thing I had when I set up the fake online profile and received tons and tons of bad dating emails messages with ridiculous short sited subject lines like; hi, hey, hello, etc.
Another problem that is pretty apparent to me is the lying. Now, that is something I just don’t understand. When you setup a Plenty of Fish profile you have to realize that the intent is to eventually meet other people in real life. And when your first impression to that person is of being a liar then you are off to a really bad start. Chances are that there isn’t going to be a second date and you basically wasted your time.
All in all, I am beginning to understand the frustrations of women on plentyoffish. It’s like the guys aren’t even trying. Seriously, these guys really need to start reading my blog…
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Sounds good! I might try it on my new friend Dotty (see http://russellcavanagh.com/2/?p=197)
In regards to the first girl (Diva), if she doesn't like the subject lines, thinks their too short of description; why doesn't she make an EFFORT herself and be the first to initiate an online conversation instead of waiting for the guy to make the 1st move. I thought women in today's society were supposed to be more independent. Guess not. She also makes these points about some of her dates:
—-A couple of guys ended up lying about their height and were shorter than described in their profiles.
—-One of these had questionable manners
—-One guy lied about his age
—-Another didn't look like his pictures
and a couple of them were quite boring.
Let me tell you something…. the same goes true for guys. I'd say that most women lie about their age and ESPECIALLY weight. On my dates I found some women boring and some that didn't look like their picture.
I am beginning to understand the frustrations of men on plentyoffish. It's like the girls aren't even trying. Plus, most women lie heavily on their profiles.
I have been on the service nearly two years, and women are not any better. The Princess attitude abounds, and women are unlikely to even reply to a serious initial post.
I think a lot of women are on merely for the ego-boost of having strangers compliment them.
Both of the anonymous posts above are 100% fact. I was actually thinking the exact same things while reading the article, amazing.
Quote "This just goes to prove my theory that the competition between men on PlentyofFish.com is quite weak despite the incredible large quantity."
Most women on POF have their expectations ser a little high … and they still expext those men to line up in their email queue to await approval.
They are just simply expecting too much. Why would guys, at the level expected need to line up in their queue on the internet? Let's get real.
Guys will always go where they can get the best deal with the least effort. POF isn't the place.
If women actually knew how many pretty awesome guys sign up with POF and quickly delete their account within hours or a week or two … they be shocked. It would certainly be a wakeup call in terms of womens expectations.
The guys women are looking for are not there, because the women these guys are looking for are not there.
NOW, you can't totally fault women on this. POF is designed to maximize ad revenue over effectiveness. That in in itself creates a lot of the problems. POF does not provide a way for women to distant themselves from men they are not interested in. The best strategy for women is too pick you they want and chase them. Unfortunately women on POF will only do that for the top enf guys … most of which are lying to be that guy. Again it's an expectation problem.
I view POF as a collection of women looking for bargains. Forget it, it's not going to happen, you'll never be able to keep the guy, at best you'll be sharing him.
Women looking for bargins will only attract amateur players.
Again, this is another issue with the way POF is setup. Without cross match or segmentation for the user base, women hust don't know how limiyed their requirements are. The are at least 20% of women on that site, if cross match was available, would just see a blank page when they hit their matches button.
“online dating” has been bad since at least the late 1990′s (after trying multiple sites, i gave up a couple years later… i was too stubborn.)
plentyoffish is hateful and sexist against MEN
I get asked by women what I think about Plenty of Fish. Thinking is for the impaired, DEDUCTION is for people with normal IQ.
First of all, as of now, Thursday, November 26, 2009, one's level of education is categorized under "smarts." Smarts are not defined by professional degrees. The smartest people I know are self-educated. An amateur built the Arc. A bunch of guys with diplomas built the Titanic. Even Moliere said "an educated fool is more foolish than an uneducated one."
This does not mean that I am compatible with the pathetic modern day version of the "coffee shop lawyer" — "the internet debater quack." And I already ran into one of those idiots, thanks to the site's profound calculations.
Secondly, a man who does not know and knows it, is not foolish. A man who does not know and thinks that he knows — is. You do not know anything about love. Inventing an algorithm to match people, when you do not know anything about love, leads to mismatching them.
Thirdly since when are men not allowed to show nipples? Does your girlfriend make you pee sitting down? How dare they shame men for being men! As Baltasar Gracian said "nothing enhances a man as much as being a man." So it follows that the more you apologize for being male the more repulsive your are.
Fourthly confident men do not try to intimidate people with warnings because you can only push an invertebrate. Spines do not fold like wings. You have to be an invertebrate yourself to project the same behavioral response on someone else.
Put two and two together and we have a sycophant, a conniving moral coward. I do not put people down, I do not even put them in their place, but I am not responsible for lifting them up, so I will not pretend they are anywhere else than where they are. If they do not like where they are they can stick their head in the sand and hope nobody bites their butt.
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