Most men do not take online dating seriously, as they view many of the women online as in dire straits financially and only seeking a ‘sugar daddy’. Yes ladies, the year is 2012, if you can’t take care of yourself financially, don’t seek your magic bullet from the internet.

I tried it out for awhile with the mindset of having some adult fun. Based on the women I met, there is no way I would have ever considered dating them. The issues/baggage encountered were astounding and the overriding consensus I found was women seeking financial assistance due to either their own lack of ambitions or opportunity. However unfortunate for them, I am certainly not going to help them out, considering that’s their overriding concern. Not a great way to start.

I would find your significant other through other means, either friends or family, or friends of coworkers etc. There are much better reliable and tried and true alternatives. Get out of the lazy mindset that online dating is the only option.

I have come across women using photos
from 20 years ago and lying about everything.
I felt so sorry for one that I took her out to
eat- all she wanted was to get me in bed-
it didn’t happen.

Another was morbid over her ‘botched breast
surgery’ … Another told me her nipples were
replaced by the flesh behind her ears( no kidding)…
Another stalked me in my own town.

The prettier girls around 50 are looking to explore
into your life for how much gold you are worth. This
is not love. It’s business.

Another one I felt sorry for had a photo where
she was about 70 pounds lighter. She had on
a low cut top and had a mound of pimples
on her shoulders.

Hard to believe I know, but all true!

There was one woman who I really felt
that I could have fallen on love with, she
told her friends how well she thought of
me. We went out for two weeks and she contacts
me fir the past 4 years every so often to
tell me she is dreaming about me. Her issue?
She wants a rich man. I’m doing fine, but I’m
not rich. She never found anyone and is losing
her house. Crazy stuff! She called me once to
come down to North Carolina where she was staying
in a motel. I told her if I come I will stay in the
room with you and be a perfect gentleman. She
declined. I really do believe we could have made
a nice couple.
Online dating has been ridiculous.
Where can a nice Jewish guy meet a nice
intelligent fun female?
E

1. what kind of desirable woman needs to use an online dating site anyway? just saying. Guys you know i’m right when i ask this. if she was really worth having, she’d get hit on regularly every day and by guys who she feels are worth having. if this is not happening, something is WRONG! sorry but it’s true.

2. Ladies, ladies, ladies, please for the sake of all things good and holy stop being so d@mn naive! no man wants ANYTHING to do with a woman short of sex! we get interested and begin to want more when after our penis has caused us to strike up a conversation, we find that you are actually a interesting and enchanting person. then we find that although we still want to bang you; we also want to spend time with you. imagine that! to get a guy to see you as more than what nature intended, ie a object to impregnate, you have to actually have some personality and be pleasant to be around. wow! why is that so hard to understand? no man has any need for a women if she isn’t being sexual. if all i was gonna do was hang out with you, i’d hang with my boys. i’d have more fun and wouldn’t have to deal with so much unnecessary drama.

3. ladies, I’ve been on plenty of fish.com. And although the guys are pretty weak, i have NEVER seen a profile from a woman that was actually half as good or better than most of the crap guys put on. in fact, i’d say on average the woman’s profiles are easily worse. like saying “i’m just trying to get my 100 words in so email me if you are interested” or “i hate writing about myself, so i have no real idea what to say”…REALLY?! and that happens more on the “attractive girl” profiles than any other.

generally, yes there are man whores on PoF, but honestly, that’s to be expected. no matter how nice the guy, if sex is not on his mind he wouldn’t be talking to you in the first place. but ladies, please stop complaining about us lazy, no game, having men when most of you couldn’t “sell yourself” out of a paper bag. if it was not for the fact that we men are sexually driven, NONE of you would get by with the sorry profiles that you post.

Like others have mentioned, they are over-pretentious princesses looking for someone who has money, good looks or both. Even what I thought were decent profile descriptions never replied back to my messages, and I know the issue that most guys on that site make it hard for real men who want to find a girlfriend hard to.

Maybe the issue stems from all the douchebags who leave typical frat boy messages, but still, my messages don’t get replies. Now, I could have lied about myself on that site too, but I didn’t, because I don’t like to set people up for the worst. I’m overweight and I’m not happy about it, but I am working on it by going to the gym and watching my diet. Maybe it’s the fact that I have that on my page that diverts them away from me. I don’t know, but I’m not surprised if it is that either.

So, even if I leave messages about trivial things like a favourite movie or their favourite band, I still get no reply back. Like someone else said, you claim you’re independent, yet you wait for someone to sweep you away. Yeah, that worked out in the 50′s when women were considered stay-at-home house-wives, but now you’re independent, you don’t need men to hold your hand, how about YOU try to hit on men instead of us doing all the hard work, because apparently nothing short of money and looks, please you.

I am looking for a place to list the names of dudes that you other woman should definitely stay away from in any way. I am pro-woman but not a lesbian. I want to see woman get a fair shake at it. I cannot believe all the winy males that have written on here… all I can say to them is to grow some balls, groom yourselves and treat a woman the way you would like to be treated, we are very different, men and woman, but good people are not. Yet we are all the same – we are single people (one would hope they are single but there has been one instance when the man was not single and I didn’t know) Male or female. I don’t mis-represent myself and do not like it when anyone does regardless of what part of life you are talking about. TY

I quickly found that very few of them had much to say for themselves; nor able to hold a lasting or progressing conversation which wasn’t about themselves (several weeks after initial “hellos”).
Maybe there is a flaw in what I am looking for, or in how I approach people; perhaps I am not interesting enough for someone to bother engaging with.
All of that could be the case, and probably does add to the problem; but I really think that the root cause is that for every “hi baby ur so pretty; can i see mor picturs” guy out there trying to get laid; there is a “thnx i just wnt 2 tha hare-dressers nd got teh new panten put in it” lady waiting to be showered with compliments. Sometimes both come away with what they are looking for.
The girls I did eventually meet from the site turned out to be absolute head-cases; and were appropriately named by my female friends and house-mates as “head-f*ck-girl #1, 2, n…..”.

I also think that the kind of people described above are the majority; which is why a free site attracts them; and that’s why the good people will leave.
I am shy and reserved; not desperate to settle for someone for the sake of it; so I left.

Is it any different when you go to a bar; or a club?
30 sleasy guys dancing up to your lady friends and offing them drinks; telling them they look sexy, 50p to call their mothers, get their coat.
30 girls acting slutty to obtain said free drinks, showing their best and sexiest poses.

1 or 2 of each sex who are genuine… If it’s meant to happen, they will find each other.