Comments on: The Unsatisfied Women of Plenty of Fish http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html If there are plenty of fish in the sea, why isn't anyone biting? Wed, 16 May 2012 13:06:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: katnipcute http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-13891 katnipcute Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:40:23 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-13891 It's interesting how many men are suggesting that women make the initial contact when we are taught that men must be the hunters....challenge is half the fun of the catch, etc. Yes, it is 2012 but any time women behave as adult, sexual creatures with just as many healthy desires as the male, men generally decide that she's too easy. At 50, why should we act like innocent virgins??? I've been internet dating for more years than I care to admit to but I'm not going to settle! I'm an attractive, successful, middle-aged woman that is very secure with herself and brings as much to the table as I expect my partner to but I don't want to hear how "the ex" ran up tens of thousands of dollars in debt (ummm, and you didn't know?) and I'm certainly not going to pay for their mistakes! It’s interesting how many men are suggesting that women make the initial contact when we are taught that men must be the hunters….challenge is half the fun of the catch, etc. Yes, it is 2012 but any time women behave as adult, sexual creatures with just as many healthy desires as the male, men generally decide that she’s too easy. At 50, why should we act like innocent virgins??? I’ve been internet dating for more years than I care to admit to but I’m not going to settle! I’m an attractive, successful, middle-aged woman that is very secure with herself and brings as much to the table as I expect my partner to but I don’t want to hear how “the ex” ran up tens of thousands of dollars in debt (ummm, and you didn’t know?) and I’m certainly not going to pay for their mistakes!

]]> By: riverviewnb http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-13248 riverviewnb Sun, 19 Feb 2012 01:14:12 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-13248 Many of the women knock 10 years off their age. I met with one girl that claimed to be average weight. She used blurry pictures, When I met her she was easily 300 pounds. How can you think that is average. Many of the women knock 10 years off their age. I met with one girl that claimed to be average weight. She used blurry pictures, When I met her she was easily 300 pounds. How can you think that is average.

]]> By: Poffer http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-13244 Poffer Sat, 18 Feb 2012 23:12:12 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-13244 UK site full of overbearing, clannish clicque, esp the Forum, either agree or get trolled, esp women and 3 male regulars who must be multi tasking like hell to put everyone down with unaccepting, verbose drivel,,very needy people who hog the site as a replacement for a real relationaship.Many are not interested in a relationship, borne out by the Forums..just putting people down who don't agree with the intrenched cabat of long time served "regulars" who have been on the site for over 8 YEARS..go figure..??? UK site full of overbearing, clannish clicque, esp the Forum, either agree or get trolled, esp women and 3 male regulars who must be multi tasking like hell to put everyone down with unaccepting, verbose drivel,,very needy people who hog the site as a replacement for a real relationaship.Many are not interested in a relationship, borne out by the Forums..just putting people down who don’t agree with the intrenched cabat of long time served “regulars” who have been on the site for over 8 YEARS..go figure..???

]]> By: Steve http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-12695 Steve Fri, 03 Feb 2012 00:14:40 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-12695 Its a shame the perspective is so narrow on this. As an expert on the field of psychology involving dates and flirting, there are two aspects to these girls disappointment. The first I would say for most women on plenty of fish is to try and take the side of a man who is EXPECTED to do the approach. With a variety of different women it is impossible to assume what the girl would want to hear. Therefore you unfortunately should be okay with an initial simple HELLO. Its called an introduction. If i were at a bar, I wouldn't launch into everything right away. Now i get that this is different as its online, but then thats what the profile is for. Read about the guy, look at his pictures.. get your initial jolt of excitement there, but get off the high horse of entitlement and expectation. What i have found quite funny myself is the turn about for a beautiful girl who wrote in her profile that she please would rather NOT have a lame short message saying hello or a compliment, etc etc. However when she initiated the contact with me, she made ALL her mistakes she protested against. And its scary how often that happens when the girl takes the initiate. To be fair, women are equally as bad at the approach as men on this site. The only difference is that the women hold the rod of power in most cases. The reason for this.. our two separate triggers of attraction. Guys are more solidly connected to physical triggers of attraction where as women are rooted more in personality. This does not mean they can't find men sexy, but more often than not a good looking man can blow it by being an idiot, where as for many men a gorgeous woman can act like an idiot and they will still express some interest... this is NOT shallow but our instinctive makeup. This leads to why it is easier for woman to harness the attention as physical allure is far more potent and easy to control. So now you women have the power.. you've gotten lazy in communicating your personality and needing it to sell. But you are quick to jump down a man's through for it.. or rather.. NOT :P I would suggest to any girl who moans and complains about pathetic boring opening lines that you get off your princess high horse and attempt to approach a man on the same standards you expect. And when you start hitting discomfort, use that and hold onto it the next time you act less than compassionate to a man who is being a gentleman and just introducing himself. Having said that.. there are plenty of perverts on that site as well, I have heard many stories from female friends of mine and dates i've been on. Please, note that its the way of the world. A large population are complete idiots who do act like little boys. But, learn to filter through those on or offline rather than reject everyone and you'll be a much happier dater. Its a shame the perspective is so narrow on this. As an expert on the field of psychology involving dates and flirting, there are two aspects to these girls disappointment. The first I would say for most women on plenty of fish is to try and take the side of a man who is EXPECTED to do the approach. With a variety of different women it is impossible to assume what the girl would want to hear. Therefore you unfortunately should be okay with an initial simple HELLO. Its called an introduction. If i were at a bar, I wouldn’t launch into everything right away. Now i get that this is different as its online, but then thats what the profile is for. Read about the guy, look at his pictures.. get your initial jolt of excitement there, but get off the high horse of entitlement and expectation. What i have found quite funny myself is the turn about for a beautiful girl who wrote in her profile that she please would rather NOT have a lame short message saying hello or a compliment, etc etc. However when she initiated the contact with me, she made ALL her mistakes she protested against. And its scary how often that happens when the girl takes the initiate. To be fair, women are equally as bad at the approach as men on this site. The only difference is that the women hold the rod of power in most cases. The reason for this.. our two separate triggers of attraction. Guys are more solidly connected to physical triggers of attraction where as women are rooted more in personality. This does not mean they can’t find men sexy, but more often than not a good looking man can blow it by being an idiot, where as for many men a gorgeous woman can act like an idiot and they will still express some interest… this is NOT shallow but our instinctive makeup. This leads to why it is easier for woman to harness the attention as physical allure is far more potent and easy to control. So now you women have the power.. you’ve gotten lazy in communicating your personality and needing it to sell. But you are quick to jump down a man’s through for it.. or rather.. NOT :P I would suggest to any girl who moans and complains about pathetic boring opening lines that you get off your princess high horse and attempt to approach a man on the same standards you expect. And when you start hitting discomfort, use that and hold onto it the next time you act less than compassionate to a man who is being a gentleman and just introducing himself. Having said that.. there are plenty of perverts on that site as well, I have heard many stories from female friends of mine and dates i’ve been on. Please, note that its the way of the world. A large population are complete idiots who do act like little boys. But, learn to filter through those on or offline rather than reject everyone and you’ll be a much happier dater.

]]> By: Alex Mexning http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-12687 Alex Mexning Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:41:06 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-12687 It's self-explanatory or should be, to the vast majority of women. Most men do not take online dating seriously, as they view many of the women online as in dire straits financially and only seeking a 'sugar daddy'. Yes ladies, the year is 2012, if you can't take care of yourself financially, don't seek your magic bullet from the internet. I tried it out for awhile with the mindset of having some adult fun. Based on the women I met, there is no way I would have ever considered dating them. The issues/baggage encountered were astounding and the overriding consensus I found was women seeking financial assistance due to either their own lack of ambitions or opportunity. However unfortunate for them, I am certainly not going to help them out, considering that's their overriding concern. Not a great way to start. I would find your significant other through other means, either friends or family, or friends of coworkers etc. There are much better reliable and tried and true alternatives. Get out of the lazy mindset that online dating is the only option. It’s self-explanatory or should be, to the vast majority of women.

Most men do not take online dating seriously, as they view many of the women online as in dire straits financially and only seeking a ‘sugar daddy’. Yes ladies, the year is 2012, if you can’t take care of yourself financially, don’t seek your magic bullet from the internet.

I tried it out for awhile with the mindset of having some adult fun. Based on the women I met, there is no way I would have ever considered dating them. The issues/baggage encountered were astounding and the overriding consensus I found was women seeking financial assistance due to either their own lack of ambitions or opportunity. However unfortunate for them, I am certainly not going to help them out, considering that’s their overriding concern. Not a great way to start.

I would find your significant other through other means, either friends or family, or friends of coworkers etc. There are much better reliable and tried and true alternatives. Get out of the lazy mindset that online dating is the only option.

]]> By: anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-11777 anonymous Wed, 11 Jan 2012 02:40:13 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-11777 My ex boyfriend has a profile on plenty of fish... He is a sociopath, pathological liar. Makes me laugh... in his profile he states he's looking for a long term relationship, which he most certainly is not. 48 years old, engaged six times, and manages to bilk any women he dates out of money, always promising to pay is back. He has no desire for a relationship, let alone an honest one. He is out to sleep with as many women as he can. BEWARE.....stay away from user name jmw6drj32...... he is TROUBLE...... My ex boyfriend has a profile on plenty of fish… He is a sociopath, pathological liar. Makes me laugh… in his profile he states he’s looking for a long term relationship, which he most certainly is not. 48 years old, engaged six times, and manages to bilk any women he dates out of money, always promising to pay is back. He has no desire for a relationship, let alone an honest one. He is out to sleep with as many women as he can. BEWARE…..stay away from user name jmw6drj32…… he is TROUBLE……

]]> By: Eric http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-11338 Eric Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:31:52 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-11338 So? What is the answer?... For a decent looking 57 year old guy on long island with a good job, fun conversations and creative talents? I have come across women using photos from 20 years ago and lying about everything. I felt so sorry for one that I took her out to eat- all she wanted was to get me in bed- it didn't happen. Another was morbid over her 'botched breast surgery' ... Another told me her nipples were replaced by the flesh behind her ears( no kidding)... Another stalked me in my own town. The prettier girls around 50 are looking to explore into your life for how much gold you are worth. This is not love. It's business. Another one I felt sorry for had a photo where she was about 70 pounds lighter. She had on a low cut top and had a mound of pimples on her shoulders. Hard to believe I know, but all true! There was one woman who I really felt that I could have fallen on love with, she told her friends how well she thought of me. We went out for two weeks and she contacts me fir the past 4 years every so often to tell me she is dreaming about me. Her issue? She wants a rich man. I'm doing fine, but I'm not rich. She never found anyone and is losing her house. Crazy stuff! She called me once to come down to North Carolina where she was staying in a motel. I told her if I come I will stay in the room with you and be a perfect gentleman. She declined. I really do believe we could have made a nice couple. Online dating has been ridiculous. Where can a nice Jewish guy meet a nice intelligent fun female? E So? What is the answer?…
For a decent looking 57 year old
guy on long island with a good job,
fun conversations and creative talents?

I have come across women using photos
from 20 years ago and lying about everything.
I felt so sorry for one that I took her out to
eat- all she wanted was to get me in bed-
it didn’t happen.

Another was morbid over her ‘botched breast
surgery’ … Another told me her nipples were
replaced by the flesh behind her ears( no kidding)…
Another stalked me in my own town.

The prettier girls around 50 are looking to explore
into your life for how much gold you are worth. This
is not love. It’s business.

Another one I felt sorry for had a photo where
she was about 70 pounds lighter. She had on
a low cut top and had a mound of pimples
on her shoulders.

Hard to believe I know, but all true!

There was one woman who I really felt
that I could have fallen on love with, she
told her friends how well she thought of
me. We went out for two weeks and she contacts
me fir the past 4 years every so often to
tell me she is dreaming about me. Her issue?
She wants a rich man. I’m doing fine, but I’m
not rich. She never found anyone and is losing
her house. Crazy stuff! She called me once to
come down to North Carolina where she was staying
in a motel. I told her if I come I will stay in the
room with you and be a perfect gentleman. She
declined. I really do believe we could have made
a nice couple.
Online dating has been ridiculous.
Where can a nice Jewish guy meet a nice
intelligent fun female?
E

]]> By: that GUY!! http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-11293 that GUY!! Fri, 30 Dec 2011 02:46:53 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-11293 hmmm, i dunno, but i definitely find this whole discussion interesting. 1. what kind of desirable woman needs to use an online dating site anyway? just saying. Guys you know i'm right when i ask this. if she was really worth having, she'd get hit on regularly every day and by guys who she feels are worth having. if this is not happening, something is WRONG! sorry but it's true. 2. Ladies, ladies, ladies, please for the sake of all things good and holy stop being so d@mn naive! no man wants ANYTHING to do with a woman short of sex! we get interested and begin to want more when after our penis has caused us to strike up a conversation, we find that you are actually a interesting and enchanting person. then we find that although we still want to bang you; we also want to spend time with you. imagine that! to get a guy to see you as more than what nature intended, ie a object to impregnate, you have to actually have some personality and be pleasant to be around. wow! why is that so hard to understand? no man has any need for a women if she isn't being sexual. if all i was gonna do was hang out with you, i'd hang with my boys. i'd have more fun and wouldn't have to deal with so much unnecessary drama. 3. ladies, I've been on plenty of fish.com. And although the guys are pretty weak, i have NEVER seen a profile from a woman that was actually half as good or better than most of the crap guys put on. in fact, i'd say on average the woman's profiles are easily worse. like saying "i'm just trying to get my 100 words in so email me if you are interested" or "i hate writing about myself, so i have no real idea what to say"...REALLY?! and that happens more on the "attractive girl" profiles than any other. generally, yes there are man whores on PoF, but honestly, that's to be expected. no matter how nice the guy, if sex is not on his mind he wouldn't be talking to you in the first place. but ladies, please stop complaining about us lazy, no game, having men when most of you couldn't "sell yourself" out of a paper bag. if it was not for the fact that we men are sexually driven, NONE of you would get by with the sorry profiles that you post. hmmm, i dunno, but i definitely find this whole discussion interesting.

1. what kind of desirable woman needs to use an online dating site anyway? just saying. Guys you know i’m right when i ask this. if she was really worth having, she’d get hit on regularly every day and by guys who she feels are worth having. if this is not happening, something is WRONG! sorry but it’s true.

2. Ladies, ladies, ladies, please for the sake of all things good and holy stop being so d@mn naive! no man wants ANYTHING to do with a woman short of sex! we get interested and begin to want more when after our penis has caused us to strike up a conversation, we find that you are actually a interesting and enchanting person. then we find that although we still want to bang you; we also want to spend time with you. imagine that! to get a guy to see you as more than what nature intended, ie a object to impregnate, you have to actually have some personality and be pleasant to be around. wow! why is that so hard to understand? no man has any need for a women if she isn’t being sexual. if all i was gonna do was hang out with you, i’d hang with my boys. i’d have more fun and wouldn’t have to deal with so much unnecessary drama.

3. ladies, I’ve been on plenty of fish.com. And although the guys are pretty weak, i have NEVER seen a profile from a woman that was actually half as good or better than most of the crap guys put on. in fact, i’d say on average the woman’s profiles are easily worse. like saying “i’m just trying to get my 100 words in so email me if you are interested” or “i hate writing about myself, so i have no real idea what to say”…REALLY?! and that happens more on the “attractive girl” profiles than any other.

generally, yes there are man whores on PoF, but honestly, that’s to be expected. no matter how nice the guy, if sex is not on his mind he wouldn’t be talking to you in the first place. but ladies, please stop complaining about us lazy, no game, having men when most of you couldn’t “sell yourself” out of a paper bag. if it was not for the fact that we men are sexually driven, NONE of you would get by with the sorry profiles that you post.

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-10968 Anonymous Thu, 22 Dec 2011 07:49:01 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-10968 Ok, how about I share a perspective from the MALE point of view because women on that site aren't exactly saints either. Like others have mentioned, they are over-pretentious princesses looking for someone who has money, good looks or both. Even what I thought were decent profile descriptions never replied back to my messages, and I know the issue that most guys on that site make it hard for real men who want to find a girlfriend hard to. Maybe the issue stems from all the douchebags who leave typical frat boy messages, but still, my messages don't get replies. Now, I could have lied about myself on that site too, but I didn't, because I don't like to set people up for the worst. I'm overweight and I'm not happy about it, but I am working on it by going to the gym and watching my diet. Maybe it's the fact that I have that on my page that diverts them away from me. I don't know, but I'm not surprised if it is that either. So, even if I leave messages about trivial things like a favourite movie or their favourite band, I still get no reply back. Like someone else said, you claim you're independent, yet you wait for someone to sweep you away. Yeah, that worked out in the 50's when women were considered stay-at-home house-wives, but now you're independent, you don't need men to hold your hand, how about YOU try to hit on men instead of us doing all the hard work, because apparently nothing short of money and looks, please you. Ok, how about I share a perspective from the MALE point of view because women on that site aren’t exactly saints either.

Like others have mentioned, they are over-pretentious princesses looking for someone who has money, good looks or both. Even what I thought were decent profile descriptions never replied back to my messages, and I know the issue that most guys on that site make it hard for real men who want to find a girlfriend hard to.

Maybe the issue stems from all the douchebags who leave typical frat boy messages, but still, my messages don’t get replies. Now, I could have lied about myself on that site too, but I didn’t, because I don’t like to set people up for the worst. I’m overweight and I’m not happy about it, but I am working on it by going to the gym and watching my diet. Maybe it’s the fact that I have that on my page that diverts them away from me. I don’t know, but I’m not surprised if it is that either.

So, even if I leave messages about trivial things like a favourite movie or their favourite band, I still get no reply back. Like someone else said, you claim you’re independent, yet you wait for someone to sweep you away. Yeah, that worked out in the 50′s when women were considered stay-at-home house-wives, but now you’re independent, you don’t need men to hold your hand, how about YOU try to hit on men instead of us doing all the hard work, because apparently nothing short of money and looks, please you.

]]> By: Tamara http://onlinedatingparadox.com/2009/02/unsatisfied-women-of-plentyoffish.html#comment-7849 Tamara Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:50:47 +0000 http://themodernsavage.com/onlinedatingparadox/2009/02/the-unsatisfied-women-of-plenty-of-fish.html#comment-7849 I am a woman who is honest and genuinely seeking a friend, dating and see where it goes kind of girl. Only to find that majority of men on POF are looking to screw anything that moves. I think the site more appropriately should be called Plenty of PIGS. It is just disgusting and shocks me that very few men have any integrity, self pride or self esteem by wanting to sleep with anything that has two legs! Especially in my age group (50+) and further more, the fact most of them can't function properly to start with... Thank goodness for Viagra! LOL!!!! I am a woman who is honest and genuinely seeking a friend, dating and see where it goes kind of girl. Only to find that majority of men on POF are looking to screw anything that moves. I think the site more appropriately should be called Plenty of PIGS. It is just disgusting and shocks me that very few men have any integrity, self pride or self esteem by wanting to sleep with anything that has two legs! Especially in my age group (50+) and further more, the fact most of them can’t function properly to start with… Thank goodness for Viagra! LOL!!!!

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