Examples of Good Male Dating Profiles

Over the past week, I have been scouring through tons of Male Plenty of Fish online profiles. Not that I’m checking out guys or anything (I love the ladies) but I was trying to look for some examples of great male dating profiles. To do this, I browsed through as many guys as I could and anyone that had 10 or more favorites, I jotted down in my spreadsheet for later analysis.

First off, I would just like to say that finding male profiles with more than 10 favorites was quite a difficult task. There are not many at all. Just a rough calculation, I’d say that for about every thirty male online profiles I visited, only one would have 10 or more favorites.

Now on to my findings, which will basically be a quantitative and qualitative analysis of about twenty different mens’ Plenty of Fish online dating profiles that indicated a high female attraction rate.

Profile Pictures

I know what your going to say, these guys were all naturally handsome. I thought of that and yes some looked like they were borderline male models, but not all of them. I’d say half of these guys were average looking at best. Some even had their picture ratings averaging around 4 on a 1 to 10 scale! However, the one thing that they all did have, were decent pictures of themselves. None of the typical cellphone in the mirror with your shirt-off picture, nor the grainy, “I’m half in the bag at my favorite bar picture.” They weren’t professional looking but they were good pics, usually with a simple profile shot looking relaxed with a nice smile.

Age Level

The first thing that stuck out to me was that the age range of all the men were almost all between the ages of 30-35 with a couple in their late twenties and a couple over 35. This makes some sense to me as it would seem that the 28-35 is still young enough for women down to their early twenties to date, yet at the same time much more mature than your typical college frat guy. In this age range they are likely to be down a solid career path and have experience in the dating scene.

Height Level – Tall Guys and Short Guys


One thing that I was expecting was the heights of the 20 men to be tall but this was not true. Though there were certainly a number of guys that were all around 6 feet, there was a decent group of shorter guys from 5’4 to 5’8. So, even though taller guys have an advantage in online dating, it is not unheard of for a shorter guy to attract women on PlentyofFish.

Body Type


For the body type category, a large majority were “Athletic” with the rest being listed as “Average.” One guy listed “Thin” but his pictures actually looked pretty athletic to me.

This brings me to a personal issue that I just realized. I am a competitive long distance runner and though I am quite thin, I am pretty lean. This whole time I’ve been listing myself as thin, when really I could probably get away with listing athletic if I wanted to, after all my abs are coming along quite nicely:)

So the lesson learned here is get off your asses guys and get to the gym. If not for your Plenty of Fish profiles then at least for yourselves!

Relationship Type or ‘Looking For


For the relationship type, “Long Term” and “Dating” were the two most common listed in the “Looking For” section with one guy listing “Friends.” This was interest that long term relationships were valued almost equally as the guys just listing the dating option. I suppose this would prove that women are looking for guys that can be in a committed relationship. Also, it’s important to note that the other categories like: intimate encounters, activity partner, hang out, talk/email, and other relationship were none existent in this group of guys.

Example Male Dating Profiles

Now on to the written part of the PlentyofFish profiles, the ‘About Me’ section. These are a little harder to quantify and there wasn’t anything specific that stood out, with the exception that all 20 profiles had excellent spelling and grammar. None of them were overly long, usually only two to three maximum of paragraphs, while a couple were shorter with only about one paragraph. Positivity and good outlook on life were typical and most men seemed to have “confident” profiles as in, they knew what they wanted out of life and out of a relationship.

In the interest of privacy, I’m not going to link to all the profiles, but I will give you some excerpts from some of the About Me sections that I thought were good. Also, PLEASE, do not copy these, they’re just examples, you need to write your own unique online dating profile that is congruent to your personality.

Sample Male Profile #1

ABOUT ME: As a person I like to think of myself as confident but not a ****. I’m a very humble man. I understand that there’s a time to give and be loving and understanding. I also believe in standing up for what I believe and not being walked on. I’m always there for my friends and loved ones. I don’t run from adversity. I care what people think of me because I believe in being the best man I can be. I want people who come across me to think “hey what a cool guy”. It’s not about attention for me. It’s about the importance of ones own honor and respect for those around him.

GOALS: Looking to find a way into the music business. At what capacity, I’m not sure yet but I’m exploring many ideas. I really want to find a woman to love and share in the beauty that is life. I also want to continue to help those around me I care for to achieve their goals.

WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT: I was raised by a single mother. Watched her get hurt many times. Made me believe how important it is to treat a woman right. My mother also taught me how to have inner strength and not to get walked on. I’m covered in tattoo’s and it’s made me understand just how fickle society is. I’m a TRUE heavy metal fan. I’ve had to overcome some shitty things in life and in doing so it’s made me a much stronger man.

Music: As I’ve already stated I’m a huge Heavy Metal fan. I’m a guitar tech (in training) for the signed band ——–. I’m very passionate about the tattooed and heavy metal communities. We get a bad rap sometimes and it’s a shame cause there’s some really beautiful people within these realms of society.

What I like about this guy was that he really showed a lot of passion for life and compassion for women. And mentioning his mom in there was pure gold, who wouldn’t want to be around a guy like this?

Sample Male Profile #2

A little about myself…

I am a very hard working dedicated person and I live life to it’s fullest. I laugh often and am very optimistic. I think my smile is contagious :) I have young children, ages 8 and 11, that I simply love. My 11 year old is soooo smart that we are able to have intellectual conversations (or does that mean I have the intellect of an 11 year old?). My 8 year old is fun too but is the complete opposite of the other.

I am a lifetime student and I have 2 undergrad degrees, one graduate, and I’m working on my MBA now. I tell myself I will stop after this one. I guess I just like the challenge :)

In my free time I spend lots of time with my children (they don’t live with me, but they live very close by), play the piano and drums, exercise daily, mountain bike, ride jet skis and 4 wheelers in the summer and snowboard in the winter. I always try to keep busy doing something. Oh and I LOVE to cook.

I enjoy helping others more than anything else. I would put everything I’m doing on hold if someone I know needed help with anything at all.

I love to travel (the Caribbean being my favorite) and while my immediate family all live here, I have family on the east coast, west coast, and in Southern France. I visit them all as often as possible.

I am incredibly honest and trustworthy. I would expect my match to have the same qualities. That is extremely important.

I have a great, maybe sarcastic, sense of humor (some would say disturbing). My humor is along the lines of Simpsons, Reno 911, Chevy Chase, Naked Gun, Seinfeld, stuff like that.

By the way, this guy is 5’6 and had about 40 favorites on his PlentyofFish profile. What I like about this one is that you can tell he’s a super great Dad, which is important for a lot of women and he shows how active and fun his life is.

Sample Male Profile #3

Who am I? . . . I’m Spider-Man. Wait, no, that was a movie! . . . . . I would describe myself as stable in my career and goal-oriented. I enjoy making people laugh. I am intelligent and can carry on meaningful conversations. I care about other people’s feelings. . . . . . When I’m with someone special I like being spontaneous, adventurous, romantic, surprising them with little gestures, sensual, playful, and basically having that type of fun you see two people who just met in the movies having! Someone to laugh with, hang out with, be spontaneous with, and have fun with! I’m looking for someone who has similar qualities and desires someone who they can connect with . . . . . . I feel there has to be mutual physical attraction for there to be good chemistry between two people. So being fit and having good looks are important, as well as sensuality and affection. . . . . . Having some similar interests helps–some things I enjoy are fine dining, walking at the beach at night, going dancing, watching movies including foreign films, travelling, going snowboarding, going on day trips to local attractions, having romantic nights at home, cuddling, and basically having a blast together. . . . . .

This one was my favorite out of all of them. He really hit everything on the head, covering a great deal about him and what he was looking for in a short amount of space.

Final Statements

So there you have it folks. It’s a lot of information to cover, especially since the sample size of this was 20 male profiles, but please keep in mind that these guys were the cream of the crop… or shall we say the sharks of the sea. Also, I know I left out a bunch of categories like religion, race, have a car, etc, etc, but that would take up way to much time right now and I think I already covered the basics.

In the future, I’ll likely expand on this study to include both a larger sample size and include more category data. Collecting this type of information on Plenty of Fish takes a long time, so if anyone out there is interested in collaborating on a larger scale study similar to this, please let me know.

As far as helping figure out what the perfect online dating profile is, I suppose we can say that it helps if you are a 30-35 year old male, good profile pictures, athletic, looking for a long term relationship and have a well written profile, then you are golden. For everyone else, don’t despair, take what you know and adapt as best you can to compete, after all, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

19 thoughts on “Examples of Good Male Dating Profiles

  1. Hey, I'm stumbled on this thru a search. it's interesting in that I just spent about 1.5 onths on the site. I'm sure you would agree that hieght/age/body types are typical fudge factors. Statisitically speaking, the precentage of males 6 foot or taller is less than 20%, so you know POF height stats are simple way too far out of norm to be possible. Though these particular guys, you looked at, may be legit.
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    You could try putting and slowly increasing te guys height over time to see the effect. It plots an interesting curve. If you do it on a paid dating site rather then a free dating site, you will get a much flatter curve.
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    What I found interesting about your post was the three sample profiles yuu provided. ALL of these samples use the same type language and phrases that WOMEN use to describe themselves. No real guy actually speaks that way, cause the other guys will beat him up. :-). When I was using the site, I noticed the same thing with popular guys profiles as well. I found that quite interesting, in that, in real life guys speaking that way get nowhere, but it works on dating sites. Clearly pr4senting as MORE feminine has it's advantages.
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    My conclusion from that, is, women on dating sites, epecially free ones, seem to actually prefer less masculine men and may even be a little timid around men.
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    I wonder if similar could be said for a significant percentage of men who use dating sites.

  2. "ALL of these samples use the same type language and phrases that WOMEN use to describe themselves"

    Good Catch! I wondered why, as a guy, my first instinct was to think WTF?? haha

    "My conclusion from that, is, women on dating sites seem to actually prefer less masculine men and may even be a little timid around men"

    WRONG conclusion.

    Women tend to be more CAUTIOUS on dating sites.
    They are already soooo obsessed with "Creepers" in real life that, when they go online, even before they look at their first profile, they're already SCARED half out of their minds! lol

    Bottom Line: Guys should learn to vibe much less masculine online than in real life, as it can come across as too threatening.

    However, I believe the best way to do that is is with warm & engaging photos which speak to women in powerful ways that wimpy words simply cannot match.

    Whether you're trying to impress women with how much money you have, hard working you are or even how much you want to tell the world HI MOM, the BEST way is let THEM interpret it – NOT to SPELL it out. When you make it that obvious, it almost always comes off to the far more intuitive and sophisticated female species as 'try-hard.'

    And I should know, after all I'm…

    Big Daddy
    One of the MOST successful POF users ever!

    Stats:

    *NOT in the optimal age range (but am listed as 6'/athletic/here for dating)

    * Have VERY terse copy. Just a line or two about myself and my likes. And NOTHING…not one word, about who I'm looking for. No stories about single moms, helping orphans or my plans to save the rainforest! haha

    *Already Favorited in DOUBLE digits w/in roughly the 1st month I've been on. (Started in June 2009.)

    * Rec'd Over 30 unsolicited emails from 30 DIFFERENT women in the last roughly 2 WEEKS!

    *I never even bother contacting ANYONE 1st anymore. I feel it just puts you into the 'take a number' line – esp w/hotties.

    *Viewed countless times starting at about 40-50/day when I 1st got on

    Note: I use a NUMBER of unique tricks which I've developed that I've NEVER seen or read about anyone else using. I tested them and each one seem to boost the level of interest from women.

    It's also worth noting that, while I'm a GREAT ladies man in real life, I've had HORRIBLE success on line until about a month ago when I decided ONE LAST VENUE – POF!

    I always chalked up the seeming inexplicable disparity to the fact that my 'game' in real life is so VIBE-based and obviously you need to be 'belly-to-belly' in a manner of speaking for them to sense your vibe.

    Nonetheless, I applied MANY of the fundamental PRINCIPLES I developed in 'real life' that have made me such a great ladies man to my profile.

    And they worked!

    The things I developed that are unique to my online game:

    I came up with a paradigm for how my profile should be modelled that I don't think very many others have thought of. That was a real breakthrough. It helped me shape everything I put on the profile through that prism and I believe has helped immensely.

    I've don't post on the forums and never plan to. You might get SOME short term attention from hanging out there, just like you would if you offer youself up for a Fri Night Date (a new feature offered in select communities) but I think it's ultimately the wrong kind of attention. I wouldn't waste my time.

    I have discovered the best days/times to be online. Well, I'm beginning to discover it. I'm sure some of it is random, but there does seem to be better times to get girls.

    So, that's only about ONE month in. Still looking to boost the QUALITY of the women who are writing UNSOLICITED emails to Big Daddy, but I'm guessing that will happen over time…

  3. ***UPDATE***

    LESS THAN A WEEK LATER…

    -Have now been 'Favorite'd' by 20 women.

    -Have received UNSOLICITED 1st Contact emails from a grand total of 40 DIFFERENT women. Amazing!

    - Qlty still lagging :)

    Big Daddy
    PS Working on even more exciting and REVOLUTIONARY ways to drive traffic to my POF Profile. Have already taken action on one exciting strategy. And STOLE one from a guy on POF haha But it seems to be effective.

    Also…developing a UNIQUE MODEL for FRAMING the first Real Life belly-to-belly encounter for the women I want to get with. The objective is to carve a neural pathway in both of us PRE-meeting so we both already pretty much know what to expect once we get there!
    Whoooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!

  4. Big Daddy has become a POF STAR!!!

    Proof? I have my first WHAT A JERK! email haha
    This from a girl who wrote and I never read her letter much less responded. I also never read the contents of her WHAT A JERK email too, but I'm sure it was sweet and dainty! lol

    I alos have my first POF STALKER a claim to fame I'm sure FEW guys can make after being on only a month or so.

    She is actually quite nice looking but a little persistent.

    She has now officially sent me SIX STRAIGHT unanswered emails after a previous back and forth convo that stretched thru about another 6 message.

    In one of her letters she said something I didn't like. So, I told her to slow down and yet she has kept writing and writing….

    Whoooooooooo!!!

    Big Daddy
    He's that good…

  5. Aug 1 2009

    Join Big Daddy in Celebrating his FIFTIETH Unsolicited First Contact Email from 50 COMPLETELY DIFFERENT women!

    All in less than 2 months on POF.com.

    Whooooooooooooo!!!

    I know that POF claims that less than .01% (no doubt WOMEN ONLY) get 50 emails a day.

    But I don't think many guys EVER get FIFTY DIFF WOMEN solicting him. Esp since I'm not in the OPTIMAL age group making it even more of what can only be called almost UNPRECEDENTED success!

    I've started reading some of these emails and a few of these girls are BOLD.

    You know how women are, they COYLY COUCH their words, but one talked about holding her knickers up and another about getting NAKED.

    Big Daddy
    Yeah….He apparently turns the ladies on

    PS My stalker has not written me for awhile. I even read her emails. Classic stalker behavior – Love…then Hate…then Scantily Clad Photo…then insult…then Love…then Why are You IGNORING me???

    hahahahaha

  6. I guess I'm wondering, where is the research done on women's profiles? This article reminds me of the Good Ole' Boys' club. Similar in nature to how all medical statistics, in the past, were at the exclusion of women.

  7. From Above …

    "My conclusion from that, is, women on dating sites seem to actually prefer less masculine men and may even be a little timid around men"

    WRONG conclusion. [Big Daddy]

    Actually Big Daddy, that guys conclusion was quite correct, in fact it is well known. Yes, of course guys should have an inviting profile, a you stated; no point in putting up a macho profile.

    But it is most definitely true that the pretty boy type well do better on dating sites, because of the type of women that are more likely to use this sites. People that use dating sites are NOT a representative sample of the population, it is most definitely a skewed population.

    It is also known that more women on dating sites view men as accessories rather than simply a man. This ties in with the pretty boy thing as well.

    The MORE masculine a man looks the LESS success they will have on a dating site. This is quite contrary to real life where masculinity is a major bonus. The reason is as you would expect, a broader range of women, that are less timid around men.

    I don't know if POF still has the favorites thing viewable or not, but if it is, check it and you will most certainly see the pretty boy types will a much higher favorties count. It's not just about good looks but rather more feminine looks.

  8. Unfortunately the "Favorites" feature seems to have been removed permanently so it looks like it will be much harder to do future experiments in which the number of times a person has been favorited is involved.

  9. I guess I’m wondering, where is the research done on women’s profiles? This article reminds me of the Good Ole Boys club
    -Anonoymous

    Sorry I didn't do any similar research for women… yet. The main reason is because I focus on improvement of male profiles as those seem to need the most help. Online dating is tragically skewed in favor of women, much more so than real life, and because I'm a man myself who participates in online dating it's in my personal interest to my research in this way.

    However this isn't stopping anyone else from doing something similar except for females. If someone does please send me the link and I will gladly help share the results.

  10. Interesting stats. Obvious some of the self assessed stats will be fudged.

    The profiles you selected are clearly just playing into a womans fantasy date game. These are not profiles that would attract the higher quality women, but rather those women playing out the fantasy. They're simply picking the weaker women from the group.

    Unfortunately instead of identifiying what works to attract women on POF, what you did what demonstrate the abundance of lower quality women on POF. Women who will believe what they read … ie the BS. Well, not necessarily lower quality, lets say more hopeful, more wishful thinking, more prone to suggestion.

    It's the same tactic used for late night infomercials to sell weight loss gimmicks.

    One of my degrees is psychology … trust me.

    Men using this tactics on POF, those profiles, are simply amateur players. They are selectibely picking out the weak ones in the herd.

  11. Thanks for sharing this stuff Matt–ESPECIALLY Sample #3. This is the typical kind of crap that women put in their profiles and seem to be looking for–you know, everything that guys are NOT!! Thanks for sharing this stuff.

    I have incorporated this garbage in my profile and hopefully the females will start to flock to it like flies on crap. Women crack me up. They are always wanting fun. Everything has to be “fun”. A woman could be having a root canal but she would want it to be “fun”! Ladies, we live in REALITY. Quit watching all the cheesy chick flicks and living in fantasy land. Come back to Earth and quit looking for your PERFECT man: who DOES NOT exist!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck guys. Keep playing this relationship game till you score and win!!

  12. Ive been searching for advice on creating good profiles, and I get mixed messages. Some say fun and playful, while others say speak from the heart. I’ve tried a variety and my conclusion… Women online are very hopeful. Now, maybe I’m venting because of my near zero success rate. I’ve talked to a few women, but seems I only attract the very strange. I also don’t have the heart to tell them so, but I digress.

    After reading and messaging many potential candidates, Ive noticed that women all want the same thing, and you just need to tailor your qualities towards that. What they should tell you on POF is that if you’re overweight in the slightest, don’t bother. I’m getting in shape as we speak, but I have another 50lbs to go, and even trying to let women know about your progress, they could care less. They want to see prince charming in all his glory (but don’t you dare pose in the mirror) and they are not willing to kiss the toad and have him become a prince in front of their eyes.

    Ive noticed many contradictions in women’s profiles and at one point listed them on my profile. Very little traffic for me so I don’t think many women read it. They ask us to message them something interesting, and I do, but no response, not even to say they’re not interested. Are they getting that many messages that they can’t reply to even say that? I did have one girl tell me and I thanked her for it. Also many women put nothing in their description and just wait for men to make the move based on their photos. I only messenger interesting women, those who seem like they could see past my weight, but alas, they are as shallow as the men who pose in the mirror. Now I don’t expect every woman to give me a shot, but come on. I think I’ve reached a point where I just don’t give a shit anymore. The women seek perfection while being clearly flawed themselves. I also don’t just message hotties, but I look for a certain glow to them and if complimented by a good profile or at least the qualities I look for, I message them. Each a unique message that proves I read their profile. I doubt many of the women I messaged actually read my profile. And here we go again with the contradictions as they ask us men to read their profiles instead of glancing the photos.

    I’d like to hear more from women about online dating, but it would seem all they have to do is post pictures and the men flock to them. They put very little effort in their profiles and expect so much from us guys. And to top it off, they complain that the men they end up meeting afterwords are jerks. Jesus Christ! I love women, don’t get me wrong, but I just can’t ignore the overwhelming evidence of hippocracy. I’m probably too much for most women anyways, as they claim they want an intelligent man, but fom my experience they want to be more intelligent than their man and it can’t be the other way around. Men are less picky, but women have narrowed their search results to tall dark and handsome. Online dating seems more like a rat race where you need to be average to above average looks to even get a chance, and on too of that, your profile needs to be great. I’m sure there are exceptions to the rule, but most of the time it’s the case.

    What I’m trying to get at is weight/physical appearance is the trump card. You can have a stacked hand, have a great profile, send great messages, and match chemistry perfect, but if you don’t fit under average to athletic, you’re wasting time… Like I’ve been doing. I’m getting in shape regardless, but it breaks my heart to know that the only quality that actually mattered and attracted a woman was my appearance. I’d much rather someone not be interested because of my personality. That’s something that won’t change dramatically, and there are particular qualities I am unwilling to part with as per my philosophy.

    I really want a woman’s opinion on what I’ve just said. However I get the sense no one will admit if I’m right. I haven’t given up on my search, I’ve just lowered my expectations of finding a quality woman. I stand a better chance meeting women at public venues than online with my current weight. In person is optimal but at the same time, it’s not like women walk around with a “I’m single” sign on their head. I’ve approached many women and have studied some game theory, and my best experiences were sadly with married or taken women. The only way to get through numbers of women is to hit the clubs, and I just can’t do that anymore, at least not often as I used to.

    So, seems I’ll leave the online dating thing alone until I get into great shape. The only way to succeed these days. No one wants a quality man anymore, they just say they do so they don’t seem shallow. Truth be told, if I looked like a model and sent them a boring message, I’m sure I’d be a hit. I’ll get back to you guys when I conduct my little experiment. Actually what does anyone have to say about putting false photos to attract women online? How about Big Daddy try and take his best profile description, but put an overweight (but respectably dressed) image up?

  13. This profile no 3 above he quotes ” I would describe myself as stable in my career and goal-oriented. I enjoy making people laugh. I am intelligent and can carry on meaningful conversations. I care about other people’s feelings. . . . . . When I’m with someone special I like being spontaneous, adventurous, romantic, surprising them with little gestures, sensual, playful, and basically having that type of fun you see two people who just met in the movies having! Someone to laugh with, hang out with, be spontaneous with, and have fun with! I’m looking for someone who has similar qualities and desires someone who they can connect with . . . . . . I feel there has to be mutual physical attraction for there to be good chemistry between two people. So being fit and having good looks are important, as well as sensuality and affection. . . . . .” unquote.
    Sorry to disappoint, but this has been taken from an example profile I saw in the on a US profile (being an example of a good profile). So he faked his profile.

    Just thought I’d let you know!

  14. Alex (comment above) – I am a woman, and yes physical attraction is number one. Don’t think that we women do not face the same thing. Everyone does. Everyone needs to feel that sexual attraction to someone physically to be with them, if they do not they are nothing more than friend material. Doesn’t matter how much ‘in common’ or whatever you think you might have to offer – if she doesn’t want to have sex with your body, it is a no go. Men do it to, they don’t want a relationship with overweight women, they might have sex with them, sure, but admit to it – never.

  15. time to start praising myself more. I am confident, I am hard working, i am trustworthy, i am honest. Oh, that really works, doesn’t it??!?

  16. I’m in the business of Internet Marketing. I do well online, writing copy that sells. I’m 38, pretty good looking and have the assets and desires to make a woman happy….but I was failing online.

    I had a friend, my cousin actually, look at my profile and she laughed. We spent 90 minutes on it. While updating, for the first time on POF in a month I got a unsolicited email. HOLY SHIT!

    I told her. What you did to my profile are following all the exact marketing rules that I know, and that I realized I failed.

    Turns out, what she did to my profile is the exact same key points that were pointed out here. This page is on to something.

    I’ve lost confidence in myself with woman, while trying to be honest, I gave the farm away. Now my profile is like a soap opera, there isn’t closure and there’s a lot to be desired. A couple of jokes, even at myself (like I’m Spiderman), but more so confidence. Like one dude said…”this is like what the women would write”….well duh…I think of myself pretty smart but stupid when it came to writing a profile.

    Confidence and humor. Honest and keep it short, but long enough. Great page, thank you.

  17. The truth is most women on free dating sites are way easier than women on paid ones. Conclusion? women on sites like POF just aren’t serious about finding a man. Now before I get a bunch of hate replys I said most not all, Ok ladies?

  18. The 3rd example I have seen a number of times over and over again with a few things changed in some profiles on different sites form all over!! Fake

    I found out because the guy I was with had this written down and I knew he didn’t write or talk like this..or even behave like this…so I googled the entire thing and then came all the pages of people that have used it.

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