About the Online Dating Paradox

Mr. Matt Savage:
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I am totally with you on your worthy endeavor here. Perhaps yours and my natural curiosity about the phenomena of the ODP, at first, might only appear to be our own human struggles imposed upon by our naturally reflective and curious minds; however, I am feeling that there is something to your research that will ultimately go way beyond our mere human struggles to find a “vital human connect” with a mere mortal woman, whom we desire.

As for me, my personal interest in your work is of an alchemical nature. Therefore, I would like to see you keep this Great Work going that you are doing. Therefore, I encourage you. Thus, I confess my desire to participate and contribute to your website is less about my own personal romantic frustrations in life and more about the Socrates thing of “man, know thyself”. Like you are a rather graphical, analytical and mathematical sort of person, I also have my ways of comprehending reality, which that mode is through Mother Nature’s Mechanism of fundamental alchemy.

I feel that you have an incredible ability to accumulate, document, compile and conclude evidence, so as to facilitate a human comprehension of a particular reality at hand, thereby enabling one to make an appropriate and practical response to this paradoxical dilemma at hand.

Needless to say, this reality is a timeless one for us humans; for, it is at least as old has humanity has ever been on the earth. For, no other species of living things has this sort of reflective and various sundry cognitive abilities (or convolutions!) as a human being. Therefore, “our mating patterns” are way more complex than some mere bodily leakage of pheromones from a particular given woman who is steaming away in estrus, who is quickly followed by our “inert masculine willingness” (or heated passionate desire!) of being taken full hostage to her inescapable biochemical and very intensely magnetic leash. Therefore, this “paradoxical problem” that your website is dedicated towards is at the core of all human existence, with only the need to eat something being a more profound drive in human instinct.

I clearly see that all human beings have an instinctual desire to commune with one another in a meaningful, beneficial and celebratory type of fashion, regardless of how antisocial or contrary many individuals may actually be within a society. For, it is clear to me that the limits of this mating paradox transcend way beyond the superficial preliminary protocol of mere human politeness or rudeness, whichever the case may be. Sadly, I see our species (me included!) as often folly-ridden with obscurity, which always leads to some personal level of self-sabotage in any particular given endeavor or its accompanying side-effect(s), that we might feel compelled to undertake. In turn, this self-sabotaging leads us away from the threshold that our instincts had originally led us to in the first place.

In a generalized sense, I refer to this as the “obscurity principle”. It appears to fully reside within the realm of all human affairs. The root, as I have uncovered so far, of the obscurity principle, is over-lorded or governed by the “Natural Law of Fear”. Technically, this law is a false law, and therefore does not exist; however, that is a paradox as well also, since there is something within us humans that causes us to want to rebel against our own natures in the face and context of both internal and external realities, relative to each of our existences.

Personally, as a religious theist/deist myself, I feel it needless to say, that this self-destructive desire that we all seem to have to rebel against ourselves is most certainly not caused by any sort of spiritual or æthereal cartoon character, as many excessively self-seeking, self-pitying theologians might want for the rest of us to believe. Talking nonsense or poppycock is no way to ever really courageously solve or deal with any problem that any human being might ever have in life. I think that a “real human being” of any real fiber or substance would take the bull by the horns and face this paradox and “grow through it”.

I suspect that there is more here on your website than just “getting some leg” from the woman we would sensually pursue. Again, as a seasoned alchemist, I have a desire to thoroughly study your work here, Mr. Savage, which in turn would contribute towards helping me with my own enterprise of research, comprehension, deduction and understanding within the domain of my own chosen discipline. If there is anything that I can do to assist you, by all means, feel free to contact me, as I will do what I am humanly able to do or contribute for your humanly worthy enterprise and chosen discipline. It is the least that I can do.

Also, I should mention a certain notation within this webpage, concerning the concept of “technologically advanced extraterrestrial civilizations”…

I would just be content to imagine there were some singled-cell amœbæ somewhere else in the cosmos, who crept through some unimaginably dense, murky and nebulous oceanic thing, regardless of the alacrity, dexterity or potentiality of their central nervous systems. Actually, it would not matter to me at all, whether they had a brain or not, just as long as it was some sort of life-form that could somehow reproduce itself. For, I have had to get used to making such concessions here on earth all along anyway. For me, slowly over time, I have found patience to be an acquired virtue, never a birthright. Therefore, I could care less whether some life-form or other, regardless of where it existed in the cosmos, would make some sort of pompous claim, testimony or actual demonstration towards being “intelligent life”. It means nothing to me.

Great site!

ODP rules!

Sincerely,

-Nitrothor Hesperion

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