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Why Women’s Bad Online Dating Profiles Still Attract Tons of Men

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A writer recently conducted an online dating experiment to test the depravity and desperation of men when it comes to seeking potential dates online. The experiment was pretty basic; setup an OkCupid dating profile with pictures of a very attractive woman, yet make the written part of the profile sound like the girl was an idiotic narcissist with a terrible personality; then sit back and watch what happens. Continue reading Why Women’s Bad Online Dating Profiles Still Attract Tons of Men

OkCupid Profile Tips & Example

A recent discussion on Reddit’s Seduction forum regarding attracting women using your OkCupid profile got much attention when one person claimed to be getting 110-120 visitors a week to his own personal profile, which we know is rare for a lot of men. Fortunately this gentleman was willing to share an example of his OkCupid profile tips and notes with it.

Below is a full page image of a good example of an OkCupid profile. Be sure to click the image and magnify to make it larger and more readable.

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Online Dating Profile Case Study

I recently received a request to critique an online dating profile from the PlentyofFish dating site. And though the profile was already fairly decent and well written, there were certainly a number of things in which I would change, or at least test out for comparison purposes. So we are going to go ahead and do a little case study on the profile with that person’s permission of course.

To honor the anonymity of the guy we are critiquing, we’ll simply call him the Jman when referring to him from here on in.

First Impressions of the Dating Profile

At first glance there were three big faux pas that stood out at me: Continue reading Online Dating Profile Case Study

Examples of Good Male Dating Profiles

Over the past week, I have been scouring through tons of Male Plenty of Fish online profiles. Not that I’m checking out guys or anything (I love the ladies) but I was trying to look for some examples of great male dating profiles. To do this, I browsed through as many guys as I could and anyone that had 10 or more favorites, I jotted down in my spreadsheet for later analysis.

First off, I would just like to say that finding male profiles with more than 10 favorites was quite a difficult task. There are not many at all. Just a rough calculation, I’d say that for about every thirty male online profiles I visited, only one would have 10 or more favorites.

Now on to my findings, which will basically be a quantitative and qualitative analysis of about twenty different mens’ Plenty of Fish online dating profiles that indicated a high female attraction rate.

Profile Pictures

I know what your going to say, these guys were all naturally handsome. I thought of that and yes some looked like they were borderline male models, but not all of them. I’d say half of these guys were average looking at best. Some even had their picture ratings averaging around 4 on a 1 to 10 scale! However, the one thing that they all did have, were decent pictures of themselves. None of the typical cellphone in the mirror with your shirt-off picture, nor the grainy, “I’m half in the bag at my favorite bar picture.” They weren’t professional looking but they were good pics, usually with a simple profile shot looking relaxed with a nice smile.

Age Level

The first thing that stuck out to me was that the age range of all the men were almost all between the ages of 30-35 with a couple in their late twenties and a couple over 35. This makes some sense to me as it would seem that the 28-35 is still young enough for women down to their early twenties to date, yet at the same time much more mature than your typical college frat guy. In this age range they are likely to be down a solid career path and have experience in the dating scene.

Height Level – Tall Guys and Short Guys

One thing that I was expecting was the heights of the 20 men to be tall but this was not true. Though there were certainly a number of guys that were all around 6 feet, there was a decent group of shorter guys from 5’4 to 5’8. So, even though taller guys have an advantage in online dating, it is not unheard of for a shorter guy to attract women on PlentyofFish.

Body Type

For the body type category, a large majority were “Athletic” with the rest being listed as “Average.” One guy listed “Thin” but his pictures actually looked pretty athletic to me.

This brings me to a personal issue that I just realized. I am a competitive long distance runner and though I am quite thin, I am pretty lean. This whole time I’ve been listing myself as thin, when really I could probably get away with listing athletic if I wanted to, after all my abs are coming along quite nicely:)

So the lesson learned here is get off your asses guys and get to the gym. If not for your Plenty of Fish profiles then at least for yourselves!

Relationship Type or ‘Looking For

For the relationship type, “Long Term” and “Dating” were the two most common listed in the “Looking For” section with one guy listing “Friends.” This was interest that long term relationships were valued almost equally as the guys just listing the dating option. I suppose this would prove that women are looking for guys that can be in a committed relationship. Also, it’s important to note that the other categories like: intimate encounters, activity partner, hang out, talk/email, and other relationship were none existent in this group of guys.

Example Male Dating Profiles

Now on to the written part of the PlentyofFish profiles, the ‘About Me’ section. These are a little harder to quantify and there wasn’t anything specific that stood out, with the exception that all 20 profiles had excellent spelling and grammar. None of them were overly long, usually only two to three maximum of paragraphs, while a couple were shorter with only about one paragraph. Positivity and good outlook on life were typical and most men seemed to have “confident” profiles as in, they knew what they wanted out of life and out of a relationship.

In the interest of privacy, I’m not going to link to all the profiles, but I will give you some excerpts from some of the About Me sections that I thought were good. Also, PLEASE, do not copy these, they’re just examples, you need to write your own unique online dating profile that is congruent to your personality.

Sample Male Profile #1

ABOUT ME: As a person I like to think of myself as confident but not a ****. I’m a very humble man. I understand that there’s a time to give and be loving and understanding. I also believe in standing up for what I believe and not being walked on. I’m always there for my friends and loved ones. I don’t run from adversity. I care what people think of me because I believe in being the best man I can be. I want people who come across me to think “hey what a cool guy”. It’s not about attention for me. It’s about the importance of ones own honor and respect for those around him.

GOALS: Looking to find a way into the music business. At what capacity, I’m not sure yet but I’m exploring many ideas. I really want to find a woman to love and share in the beauty that is life. I also want to continue to help those around me I care for to achieve their goals.

WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT: I was raised by a single mother. Watched her get hurt many times. Made me believe how important it is to treat a woman right. My mother also taught me how to have inner strength and not to get walked on. I’m covered in tattoo’s and it’s made me understand just how fickle society is. I’m a TRUE heavy metal fan. I’ve had to overcome some shitty things in life and in doing so it’s made me a much stronger man.

Music: As I’ve already stated I’m a huge Heavy Metal fan. I’m a guitar tech (in training) for the signed band ——–. I’m very passionate about the tattooed and heavy metal communities. We get a bad rap sometimes and it’s a shame cause there’s some really beautiful people within these realms of society.

What I like about this guy was that he really showed a lot of passion for life and compassion for women. And mentioning his mom in there was pure gold, who wouldn’t want to be around a guy like this?

Sample Male Profile #2

A little about myself…

I am a very hard working dedicated person and I live life to it’s fullest. I laugh often and am very optimistic. I think my smile is contagious :) I have young children, ages 8 and 11, that I simply love. My 11 year old is soooo smart that we are able to have intellectual conversations (or does that mean I have the intellect of an 11 year old?). My 8 year old is fun too but is the complete opposite of the other.

I am a lifetime student and I have 2 undergrad degrees, one graduate, and I’m working on my MBA now. I tell myself I will stop after this one. I guess I just like the challenge :)

In my free time I spend lots of time with my children (they don’t live with me, but they live very close by), play the piano and drums, exercise daily, mountain bike, ride jet skis and 4 wheelers in the summer and snowboard in the winter. I always try to keep busy doing something. Oh and I LOVE to cook.

I enjoy helping others more than anything else. I would put everything I’m doing on hold if someone I know needed help with anything at all.

I love to travel (the Caribbean being my favorite) and while my immediate family all live here, I have family on the east coast, west coast, and in Southern France. I visit them all as often as possible.

I am incredibly honest and trustworthy. I would expect my match to have the same qualities. That is extremely important.

I have a great, maybe sarcastic, sense of humor (some would say disturbing). My humor is along the lines of Simpsons, Reno 911, Chevy Chase, Naked Gun, Seinfeld, stuff like that.

By the way, this guy is 5’6 and had about 40 favorites on his PlentyofFish profile. What I like about this one is that you can tell he’s a super great Dad, which is important for a lot of women and he shows how active and fun his life is.

Sample Male Profile #3

Who am I? . . . I’m Spider-Man. Wait, no, that was a movie! . . . . . I would describe myself as stable in my career and goal-oriented. I enjoy making people laugh. I am intelligent and can carry on meaningful conversations. I care about other people’s feelings. . . . . . When I’m with someone special I like being spontaneous, adventurous, romantic, surprising them with little gestures, sensual, playful, and basically having that type of fun you see two people who just met in the movies having! Someone to laugh with, hang out with, be spontaneous with, and have fun with! I’m looking for someone who has similar qualities and desires someone who they can connect with . . . . . . I feel there has to be mutual physical attraction for there to be good chemistry between two people. So being fit and having good looks are important, as well as sensuality and affection. . . . . . Having some similar interests helps–some things I enjoy are fine dining, walking at the beach at night, going dancing, watching movies including foreign films, travelling, going snowboarding, going on day trips to local attractions, having romantic nights at home, cuddling, and basically having a blast together. . . . . .

This one was my favorite out of all of them. He really hit everything on the head, covering a great deal about him and what he was looking for in a short amount of space.

Final Statements

So there you have it folks. It’s a lot of information to cover, especially since the sample size of this was 20 male profiles, but please keep in mind that these guys were the cream of the crop… or shall we say the sharks of the sea. Also, I know I left out a bunch of categories like religion, race, have a car, etc, etc, but that would take up way to much time right now and I think I already covered the basics.

In the future, I’ll likely expand on this study to include both a larger sample size and include more category data. Collecting this type of information on Plenty of Fish takes a long time, so if anyone out there is interested in collaborating on a larger scale study similar to this, please let me know.

As far as helping figure out what the perfect online dating profile is, I suppose we can say that it helps if you are a 30-35 year old male, good profile pictures, athletic, looking for a long term relationship and have a well written profile, then you are golden. For everyone else, don’t despair, take what you know and adapt as best you can to compete, after all, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Social Proof in Online Dating Profiles

What if there was a way to influence potential online daters to perceive you and your Plenty of Fish profile as more attractive? There is a way, it may not be up some people’s alley, but we’re going to take a look anyways.

There is a concept in psychology called Social Proof. Social proof is essentially a phenomenon that occurs when the consensus of others has an influence on the thoughts of a person. Hence, it is society giving us proof of a decision. This concept was made famous by Robert Cialdini’s book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.

A good example of social proof is the idea of “canned” laughter that we often hear on sitcoms. Though we probably tend to think it is annoying, at least I do, there has been research conducted by television producers that say canned laughter in a show will have a higher perceived “funniness” than the same show without the canned laughter. This is social proof at work, as the laughter is the proof that is influencing a person’s decision on whether the show is funny or not.

So what does this have to do with online dating? Actually the better question is, how can social proof help me in my online dating?

Luckily there are a number of dating gurus who have been testing this concept on a number of social media and online dating websites. Let’s take a look at some of these concepts and see how they can be applied to your Plenty of Fish dating profile.

Using Prop Profile Pictures

A prop picture is a picture with you either doing something really interesting or in an interesting place. The point to using prop pictures in your online dating profile is to help convey higher value or status.

For example, if you’ve ever been on vacation or traveled to an interesting place, lets say Paris, then putting up a picture of you standing in front of the Eiffel tower is going to help convey desirable qualities about you. It shows that you like to travel, that you are adventurous and that you like to have fun. And displaying these values goes a lot farther using pictures than it ever would by simply writing it in your ‘About Me’ section.

Getting Testimonials on Your Profile

We’ve all seen sales pages or commercials with testimonials from various people about how great a product is. This is a common marketing tactic which uses social proof and there is a reason that testimonies are commonly used for these purposes – because they work! Well, what if we applied the same principle to our profiles?

On the bottom of every Plenty of Fish dating profile there is a section in which other people can write a testimony about you and it can be from anyone who has an account on Now this might be a problem for some people because they don’t know anyone who would write a testimony for them.

One way to get these is to simply ask a good friend of yours of the opposite sex. For example, I recently asked a girl I’ve known for about ten years now and is one of my best friends if she could quickly sign-up for Plenty of Fish and write me a glowing testimonial of how super fun and awesome I am:) Well, because she is such a great friend, she pulled through and wrote a great testimony which now acts as social proof for me.


Another form of social proof which I’ve talked about in the past is the number of Favorites that is listed at the bottom of your profile. Favorites are essentially like a bookmark for people who find your profile attractive or interesting. It’s almost like a positive vote for your profile and the higher the number your Favorites is, then the more it is likely to act as social proof. For instance, when someone scrolls down the page and sees that you have a huge number of favorites than they will be more likely to take a closer look at the profile.

Of course, there isn’t really any good way of manipulating this number to make it higher, so you’ll just have to work hard on creating a great dating profile and let that number increase naturally.

Plenty of Fish Serious Member Effectiveness

It’s been about 1 month now since Plenty of Fish launched it’s serious member upgrade option. This new feature basically included nothing more than having your profile search results appear in a different color along with having a star badge next to your profile.

Being the curious kind of guy that I am, I decided to do a little digging today and try to get some statistics on how effective this new Serious Member Upgrade was for those participating.

To start I searched through 600 male profiles and 600 females profiles for everyone with a serious membership.

These were the results. Out of 600 male profiles ONLY 3 had upgraded to a premium membership. Out of the 600 female profiles, 53 had upgraded. It seems like quite a big difference but keep in mind that it is only 1% and 9% respectively of the total sample size. Also, it must be noted that there were quite a few females on the message boards awhile back that indicated they were getting their profiles upgraded automatically (free of charge). So this could also account for a wider margin between the male and female paid option.

Now that we have an idea of the number of people participating in the Plenty of Fish premium accounts, is it possible to determine how effective these “Serious” members are in attracting more online dates?

This is hard to say because the point, in my opinion, of the paid membership is simply to draw more visitors to your profile. There is nothing that a shade of yellow and a star next to your picture is going to make you any more or less attractive. However, one could say that if “Serious” members are indeed having a higher click-through rate to their profiles, those members with good profiles should have a higher amount of “Favorites.”

As some readers may know, I use the “Favorites” metric on each member’s profile as an indicator of interest or a sign of attraction.

Before we get into the Favorites analysis of serious vs. regular members, I’d like to first take a closer look at the three lonely guys who actually ponied up cash to have their profiles highlighted in yellow.

Upgraded Plenty of Fish Male Profiles

Guy#1 had 1 favorite

Though this guy’s little yellow star badge says he’s a serious member, his profile says the opposite. He had one picture which was blurry and poorly done, as if taken from a cellphone. His “about me” section was three sentences long, with horrendous spelling and grammar issues. This guy is anything but serious and is obviously wasting his $5.99 per month on this sorry excuse for a profile.

Guy#2 had 8 favorites

This guy had what I’d call an average profile. A couple of decent pictures and a typical “about me” section that explains how he’s a nice guy looking for the right girl, etc, etc.

Guy#3 had 26 favorites

This guy had the full 8 pictures, all pretty decent, except three of which were solely of his pick-up truck taken from different angles. Now, I don’t really get the whole picture of your truck thing, but I’m just city boy, so what do I know. In addition to the pictures, the guy’s written profile was pretty slim, only about two sentences of “about me,” which is why I find it amazing that he has 26 favorites (that’s really high for a guy). Perhaps the Serious Member badge is helping him out, or perhaps there is more to this pickup truck thing than I thought.

Upgraded PlentyofFish Female Profiles

Since there were 53 upgraded female profiles in my sample I’m not going to go through each one. However, from my general observations there wasn’t much of a pattern, the profiles were similar to the men where some were really bad, some were average and some were really good.

The first thing I think we can conclude from the profile observations is that being a “Serious” member does not necessarily mean that you are serious about creating a great Plenty of Fish online dating profile.

Favorites Analysis

Now lets get our hands dirty and take a look at how the Serious Members’ favorites compare with the Regular Members. I basically recorded the number of favorites for each serious profile for each gender. Then I took the average and the median of each gender. Also, for comparison purposes, I took an old set of data from my Profile Picture experiment, and found the same thing.

I want to note here that I am using old data because I am comparing the average and median to typical member profiles before “paid” membership was implemented to the “serious” profiles of now. I feel that this is a better way of seeing how effective a paid membership is.


As you can see in the above graphs, the men seem to do better with the paid memberships where the women don’t have much of a difference at all. The big glaring problem though, is that there were only three paid male memberships in the sample, so it’s difficult to say how good those represent all men who are premium members (it’s difficult to find paying members who are males).

So as of now, I’d say that paid memberships on Plenty of Fish really aren’t worth it. Not until we can get some better metrics on something like the Click-through rates of Serious vs. Regular profiles. Perhaps this is something that Markus could provide in the future.

Online Dating Profile Word Clouds

I noticed an interesting experiment on another blog the other day which utilized word clouds to examine online dating profiles. For those that don’t know, a word cloud is a graphical representation of the frequency amount of each word used in a given text. For example, a word that is used 10 times in a body of text will appear much larger than a word that is only used once or twice. Many of you will have probably seen similar displays as a “tag cloud” on various other blogs and websites.

So, using this concept, I decided to conduct my own little experiment, I went on to Plenty of Fish and copy and pasted the Interests sections of 50 female profiles and converted them into word clouds using the Wordle web-site. I repeated the same process again using 50 male profiles and converted those into their own word cloud.

Female Online Dating Profile Word Cloud

Male Online Dating Profile Word Cloud

As you can see there are both similarities as well as some big differences. Lets see if we can analyze this a bit, shall we?

First, lets take a look at the biggest/most used words in the female profiles, which are:

music, movies, friends, dancing, beach, reading, family, concerts, traveling, shopping, laughing, fun and tattoos

Now lets take a look at the biggest/most used words in the male profiles, which are:

sports, music, movies, fishing, camping, cooking, outdoors, golf, football, beach and travel

Obviously, everyone likes music and movies, so it’s no big surprise that those are two of the biggest interests for both profiles. Also, no big surprise that ‘sports’ is the biggest word in the men’s’ online dating profile.

What I find interesting though is that the female dating profiles tend to be more about emotions and bonding, with words like: friends, family, laughing and fun. While the men’s’ interests are mostly activity based and typically some sort of outdoors activity or sport.

A few more interesting observations:

  • The word ‘cooking’ is used more as a male interest than a female interest
  • Tattoos and piercings is a fairly common interest for the ladies. Does this mean that they enjoy getting tattoos or do they like guys with tattoos?
  • The word ‘bars’ is used more on female profiles than on males
  • Though cooking is a big interest in males, the females tend to list specific types of food like: sushi, Mexican, chocolate, and cookies

It really is interesting and I’ve been studying these for over an hour now.

So, how does this help you with your own Plenty of Fish profile? I’m not exactly sure, but I could say that you get a pretty good idea of some of the generic interests that most people list. And if you are trying to generate a profile that is unique and really sticks out, then it might be a good idea to avoid the generic ‘movies’, ‘music’, etc.

A good strategy might be to list specific types of music or specific genres of movies. Even listing a bunch quirky fun things that barely anyone else would add to their online profile would help to spark curiosity and attention.

I saw a good example of someone mixing up their interests section so that it was interesting, funny, and unique:

It has some general interests as well as some that you wouldn’t normally expect. It definitely helps to make the online dating profile more fun.

How To Find Your Best Dating Profile Pictures

There is a feature on the Plenty of Fish dating site that many people overlook. This one tool, used properly, can help you maximize the attractiveness of your profile pictures. What is this great tool? It’s the picture rating system.

When you go into your ‘images’ section onto Plenty of Fish, there is a little check box next to each of your pictures that says “rate image.” By checking this box you are allowing other people to give that picture a ranking from 1 to 10, with 10 being the most attractive. This one tool can help you create a profile that will vastly improve your chances of attracting more potential online dates.

Here’s what you do:

  • Go into your ‘images’ section of your profile and check of the ‘rate image’ box next to each of your pictures.
  • The next step is easy, simply wait about a week, or enough time that enough people can rate your pictures.
  • Next go into your own profile and next to the “Rate My Picture” line in the top right corner, click on the ‘Vote Breakdown’ link
  • Once in your Vote Breakdown section, you will see some bar graphs with various statistic information
  • Naturally this shows you on average and by demographic how people find your pictures to be attractive or not
  • If you rate highly on a picture (7-10) then you know you have keeper, but if you rate low on a picture (below 5) then it’s probably a good idea to get rid of it and swap it out for a new one.
  • Also, be sure to pay attention to the breakdown by demographic. Sometimes, you may rate low in one group and high in the other. If you aren’t interested in the group that rated you low and are interested in the group that rated you high, then it is still beneficial to keep that picture even though your average overall rating is somewhere in the middle.

So, as you can see, this is a pretty powerful tool for your Plenty of Fish online dating profile. Using this one technique you can easily maximize the attractiveness of your overall profile.

7 Profile Picture Mistakes

Creating a seductive profile online is probably one of the most important aspects to Plenty of Fish dating. Within the profile though, the pictures section is by far one of the most important and often most neglected feature. Here we will talk about some of the seven most over looked mistakes while posting pictures on your profile.

1. Not Having a Picture

This is pretty obvious and it’s still surprising that there are people who think they are capable of attracting perfect strangers online without having a simple picture of themselves. Basically, if you don’t have at least one picture, you are 100% wasting your time.

2. Pictures Without a Shirt

This applies mostly to the guys, however, I doubt women could get away with a topless picture on a legitimate dating site. Regardless, guys, keep your shirts on. Yes, we’re all impressed with your big muscles, but posing/flexing for the camera is making you look like a tool and a douche bag. Amongst all my research and surveys with women who date online, I have yet to find one that thinks this is a good idea.

3. Not Having a Good Head Shot

This is actually a requirement for your main picture on the Plenty of Fish dating site. The reason is that people want to actually see a good close up of you, rather than a group shot or some stick figure standing in the distance. Even if you think you’re ugly, having a good close up picture is good, because it shows you are honest. One of the biggest complaints in online dating is meeting people in real life that don’t look like their pictures. These people who misrepresent themselves are obviously not getting a second date, which makes all that effort worthless in the end. Better to just stick with your ugly mug for the sake of efficiency.

4. Pictures With Your Ex Cropped Out

These are the pictures where you can clearly see the ex cropped out of the picture. I don’t think this one is that big of a deal if you are really short on quality pictures. However, if you are serious about raking in the hotties on Plenty of Fish then why not just get some better pictures – don’t you own a digital camera? Another thought is to simply leave the other person in the picture as means of social proof. Who cares if your ex is in the picture? I think it shows that you are open and don’t care how people judge you. If you’re worried about privacy for the other person then simply put a black bar across their eyes.

5. Self Portrait In the Mirror

You know what I’m talking about. The people who take their own picture with a cellphone while standing in front of the bathroom mirror. People please, this is just lame. First, it makes you look like you don’t do anything, because you don’t have any pictures of yourself and it makes you look like you don’t have any friends. Do not do this.

6. Not Having Enough Pictures

Recently I did a little research where I browsed through 100 random male profiles and 100 random female profiles. For each profile, I recorded in a spreadsheet two sets of data: the number pictures shown and the number of times that profile was given “favorite” status. The results turned out to what I expected. Regardless of looks or written content, on average, the profiles with more pictures (6-8) had more favorites given to them. The profiles with less pictures (only 1 or 2) had little to no favorites given. Essentially, the two sets of data are directly proportional. So, we can conclude that the more pictures you show, the more interest you will receive in your online dating profile.

7. Not Diversifying Your Pictures

One observation I noticed in my research from number 6 is those profiles with 6 – 8 pictures, some did good while others did extremely well. The difference was that the pictures that were exceptional, had a diverse set of pictures. Conversely, the pictures that had 6 shots of the same thing only fared as well as profiles with 1 or 2 pictures.

A good example is one guy who had 8 pictures shown and was given favorite status by 130 women!! By far the highest number I’ve seen for a male dating profile. So what set his pictures apart from everyone else. He basically showed, through his pictures how awesome and exciting his life was. He had pictures of him doing the following: skydiving, riding a motorcycle, snowboarding, surfing, sitting by the fire in a camp setting, playing with his dogs, and one simple but clear head shot as his main picture. He barely had anything written in his profile either, but he didn’t need to, he displayed his exciting life through visual proof!! Think about it folks.

Hopefully these seven tips of “what not to do” will help you avoid some common pitfalls for Plenty of Fish dating and other online dating services. If you have any to add please feel free to write it in the comments section.